A Site We Highly Recommend… For The Hurting


our PURPOSE at *Listen To The Heart Of The Hurting*

We are a group of believers in Yeshua haMashiach, who believe that, if you’ve been made a victim by an abuser, a user or a hateful or bitter work associate or boss, neighbor or relative, or even a friend, you need one who’ll *really listen* to you! That is what we are here for!

We intend to *be there* for you!

We intend to *Pray with you.* … if you are willing to contact us and share with us a way to contact you.

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We are not an official ministry.
We are not a 501-c(3).

We are a group in development toward becoming a fully-operational non-profit which seeks to listen to your story, and
we would verify any necessary information, while also seeking to share with you as many ways, and other organizations, which we know to be able, and ready, to assist you in ways we cannot.

We exist as an educational entity that will publish helpful, advice-type information to help you with, and on behalf of you.
We hope to work with you, both in person and online, through video and audio formats, to help your story (if you choose to make it public, through us) “get out there” where others can benefit from seeing where you are at, and the progress you are making toward *the freedom in your soul* you seek to attain, and
We trust, in the future, we’ll be enabled through donations and through other funding we are seeking, to continue to assist you, while producing information that will be disseminated through various means, through livestream type webinars and also video conferencing, to
continue supporting your efforts to help others find *the real freedom they seek,* as well.

We also hope to share with you all available information which has no cost associated with that information:  that is, articles, books, blog posts, and more, including flyers, and brochures, or booklets/pamphlets, that other appropriate organizations have produced and want to provide for you.

We also hope to connect you with active helpers who are available for you to contact and stay in touch with, who can help you on another level that we are unable to provide you with, through our staff and any volunteers who offer to assist us in helping you with the needs you have, for emotional and mental support, comfort and assurance.

One of our main goals is for you to gain the confidence you need, to make it not only through this day, or this week, but … to propel you through the coming decade!
We all need someone to hold our hand while we are walking through a deep, dark wilderness or forest of sorts, … one who will guide us along, who knows The Way to get through and into The Light past the end of the tunnel many of us have felt, or are now feeling, we are in, due to past life experiences.
oh my!
I’ve been there!!

Founder and CEO of
Listen To The Heart Of The Hurting
… a non-profit organization
meant to help younger and older ladies
navigate through the challenges of life
in America in the 21st century

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~*~  Our Purpose, at *Listen To The Heart Of The Hurting* is to listen to your story!  ~*~

We will pray with you, when we are at an event during which we, or just one of us, speaks, to share *our* (her) story.

We will laugh, cry and chat together, about whatever is on your mind, regarding anything you have been through, that has left you with scars … of thought, of emotional pain, or mental anguish or negative thought patterns, … or an attitude toward certain types of people which is directly linked to life experiences, in your past, recent or further back in time, ….

We want your story to be told!  and heard!

We want you to be the one who gets to tell your story!

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We will, however, not put up with fakes, or those who just want to rant on and on with no real desire to be helped to find the roots of “what went on” and “where you can get to” … because there IS a Goal,
there IS a reason WHY this happened to you, and
there IS a Way To Find The Healing and Freedom you sooo desire to find and Experience!
oh my!  yes!

So, leave us a comment, below, dear friend!
We will respond as soon as possible, hopefully within the next 48 hours, or less.  okay?

YHVH (Yahweh) your Maker and Redeemer says:  “… I have loved you with an everlasting Love!  Therefore, have I drawn you” (unto Myself). — Jeremiah 31:3

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Thoughts about Life and The Right Relationships

Do you have a lot going on, lately?   Life seems to continue to keep us busy enough that, when we do get to rest, we feel like heaving a hearty sigh of relief!!

Have you been feeling overwhelmed with all the responsibilities “on your plate?”  I have been!  I have found one place where I’ve rediscovered Real Life ( and True Rest ).  …in The One Who IS our Rest and our Peace!

Life:  vibrancy








rest, knowing I am safe ….

We could also list some words that can be used to describe “Death.”  I won’t, at this time.  But, you may pause here and guess what those words might include, on a list of yours.

To me, Life includes sunshine ( that is deep inside my soul ).  It also includes clouds that can bring rain.  Life includes a feeling ( inside ) of Real Freedom, … from lack, from worry, from fear, and from oppression from outside sources.

Life includes not having to live up to anyone else’s unreasonable expectations and demands / requirements.  I am more than willing to live under and with Yah’s guidelines, “statutes,” principles, values, moral teachings, and all His instructions ( given in His written Word ) — all that apply to me — and also brought to my mind by way of His Holy ( Set-Apart ) Spirit.  I do see that people, on the other hand, can get rather unreasonable.  Some, more than others.

…  momentary interruption ….

Please bear with me!  I will continue sharing some thoughts about Relationships…  soon.

New Developments: Organic, Whole-foods for your better health!

I’ve been busy with a number of activities, as we all are!  We are *all* busy, I mean.  And, the choices we try to make *wisely,* as to what we’ll use our time to accomplish, or focus on, lead us on paths that can benefit us in a wonderful way!  Or, if those choices end up taking us on paths that, we soon see, are not so helpful for us, we need to re-think it all and “get off” those paths immediately!

I’ve been using several wonderful (and I don’t say that lightly) organic, whole-food, green-powder (and other dried powder) foods, and whole-food, organic supplements, for over 2 years, now, and I am completely satisfied with what they taste like, and especially with the fantastic results in my skin, hair, eyesight, energy, elimination, and my hormone levels, my emotions, and any pain I’ve had that’s reduced to almost nothing!  wow!!  Keep reading, because I also lost weight and inches!

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Life’s goings-on have prevented posts here, recently! :o/

Life has kept this author extremely busy, with new avenues to walk on, and new challenges for anyone living in the USA who is trying to live a faithful life abiding in Yeshua, … yet not perfect, … just learning step-by-step to do better at abiding.  Studying and learning, and then applying what’s being learned, takes time! (big grin)

The details of what it takes to continue keeping up this blog has kept articles (posts) from being posted here by the author of Threads of Silver! aagh!  But, now, we seem to be able to move forward.  So, we’ll see how it goes.

Thank you for being so patient!
The author hopes to post some new content soon! … unless more things get in the way of that getting accomplished. :o/

Be sweet! — You know you can! :o)

life may take you in a new direction, yet …

Life (on earth) continues to open up new horizons.  HalleluYah!
Some directions, it seems, do not look so positive.  Others look quite helpful and beneficial!

YHVH our Elohim (The LORD our G-d) is able to do mighty things!  He is continually working “for good” on the behalf of His children!  He is ever at work to bring about blessing upon His children who have their hearts fixed on “hearing and obeying” His Truth!

Let’s rejoice in Who YHVH is!  Let’s thank Him for His abundant, even innumerable, mercies and compassions!  Let’s remember to show Him our gratefulness with sincerity!  He deserves these things, … and much more!

YHVH is the very best in the highest sense of what that means and implies!  It is such a wonderful blessing to be chosen by Him, and to be given the amazing opportunity to get to know Him, over time!  —  HalleluYah!

Am so thankful to YHVH for providing caring friends, His limitless and specially-designed blessings, His special provision, protection and hope!  Am grateful for His Shalom and His ahavah love, to uplift, encourage and carry us through!  He is able to “redeem the time” on your behalf and on mine.   He knows just how to do that, and He knows what good He is at work bringing about, in His special way.

He is ever at work doing good on behalf of His children!  HalleluYah!  He is worthy of our praise, thanks and all the honor and obedience we have to give Him!  He is awesome!

His beyond-good, wonder-filled, LovingKindness and set-apart Character are such an inspiration to learn more about, as I study His Word!  HalleluYah!

He is amazing in how He directs us with His plans He has for each of us!  wow!  Am quite well aware that I do not deserve His blessings, yet He continues to bestow them upon those who are walking among His children of blessing.   As we “hear and obey,” He blesses us!  HalleluYah!


… thoughts from recent times …

Life is takin’ some of us in some new directions.
That can be a very positive thing.

In my case, I can say “HalleluYah!” with a sincere heart.
Am so very grateful to YHVH my Elohim for His deliverance from many negative things, one of which is having had a back injury.
YHVH Rophe has healed my (formerly) “aching back.”
A back injury, from several previous moves (moving heavy stuff around; am not a very strong person, physically … yet), had lingered, and had left me being unable to do some things which I’d say are normal functions for one in my age range.
Now, am fully able to do so much more, that if I did not know my own age, I’d say that I am now able to do most anything I need to do, … with this “new” back my Healing Father has “accomplished” on my behalf.

Did I deserve Him accomplishing the healing of my back injury?
No way!  But, for reasons only He knows, He has healed my back.
Please, rejoice with me!

Am sharing this after months and months of His having healed my back.
Now, I am certain it is time to share this!  It’s been confirmed, and it has lasted for months!
He is awesome!  He is The Most High!  He is echad (One)!  He never changes! — He is able to do this for you, also.  Trust Him (by a choice of your will), and cry out to Him, for whatever your need is!

He is able to deliver you!
Shalom!  Baruch haShem Adonai YHVH our Elohim!  He is El Elyon!  He is The Mighty One! (El Gibbor)
Let’s praise His set-apart Name!  YHVH is echad!  YHVH is our Elohim!
Deuteronomy 6:4-8
Numbers 6:24-26 ( a blessing for you )

… so little time, “so much” to do (in home-based learning) …

It is amazing how many of us are seeing that there are quite a few positive options for learning, yet … there still seems to be “so little time” to do it in, … within each day’s “learning time slot.”  That thought process seems to leave many of us with a feeling that we have not accomplished what our (parental / tutor) goals were, or even what our children would like to learn “this year” (or last year, either …).

Take heart, ladies!  Our Heavenly Father knows exactly what He wants each of your (or my) children to learn!  He knows when will be “a very good time (called, by some, “a teachable moment”)” for you to reach the heart of your child, who seems to learn better auditorially, more than visually, … or … for your child who seems to learn better kinesthetically, more than visually or auditorially.

(… did I spell those words correctly?  hmm…)

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Remember, “…be strong in YHVH (translated in KJV as “The LORD”) and in the power of His Might.”  — from Ephesians 6:10

Remember, our Heavenly Father is without limit in what He can teach each of us, and enable us to know, so that we can, then, share that, … with enthusiasm (which comes from inner Joy He puts into those who are His, by the working of His Holy Spirit), … with our children He has lent to us, for a time, until we all get to see Him face to Face.  ( oh!  HalleluYah! )

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Remember what is shared in Psalm 147: 5  … His (YHVH’s — our Heavenly Father’s) “understanding” is infinite.

Even if our English version is not exactly correct from what was stated in the original language, of Hebrew, it still does state:  His understanding is infinite.  No limits to what He knows “and” understands!

If we are in His Son, Yeshua (true), and if Yeshua and YHVH are Echad / united / “one (true),” and if He gives us (who believe and obey His Instructions) “the mind of Messiah {Yeshua},” then it does seem true that we do have access (because He wants us to have this) to the understanding of The One Who designed the entire universe more-than-fantastically, more-than-wonderfully, and more-than-amazingly and -awesomely.

To me, that tells me He will give me the knowledge & understanding I need to teach my children.  Will I trust Him to do that?  Will I be seeking His Face, daily, in order to “hear (shema / sh’ma — which means, in the Hebrew, to hear with the intent to obey)” Him?
In other words, will I allow Him to lead, and not me? (ouch!)
Will I listen very intently, and with all my attention?  … not allowing myself to become distracted from doing that, except when there is no way to avoid some of my responsibilities, which do draw me away from giving Him my undivided attention, while praying, or while crying out to Him, … either in private, or among others with whom I live, ….
Note:  We have a small place we live in.  It’s not easy to find a place within that place, where we can be alone for very long at one time.

Nevertheless, will I do, with my Abba Father, as I have taught my children to do, when I speak to them, expecting them to listen intently and with all their attention?  (ouch!)  He certainly deserves my undivided attention.
One missionary solved the ‘interruption while praying’ problem, by bringing a notebook of paper with him, to use while he prayed.  Yes!  It was for interrupting thoughts the enemy would try to bring to him, but in his case, he wrote down the ones which had to do with ‘things’ he saw YHVH was using the enemy to bring to the missionary’s mind, so he could pray about and deal with those, while praying.  That way, those were dealt with, and all ended up with a good (God-glorifying) result.  (yay!  — I mean, “HalleluYah!” with a mighty, thankful shout to Him to Whom all is due )

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Some of us have a tendency to think in terms of what some ‘former educators’ have termed:  high places (of intellectual knowledge)
Honestly, those are dangerous places to visit, even if only in one’s mind.  (okay?)  I’ve visited them.  It is, indeed, a waste of time, to try to fit one’s children, or one’s spouse, or one’s own self, into what anyone else on earth has stated or ‘claimed’ any one (person) needs to fit into.


Because, by doing that, we are aiming toward some form of disappointment, or toward failure of one kind or another, or toward frustration.

“High places” are simply not needed, friends.  High places (by the definition of the one whom I heard speak on this, some years back), are (what I’d call) requirements or expectations regarding high, academic goals (or intellectual levels, or knowledge levels) you, or I, may assume / figure / reckon we “need” to achieve. (or that our children “need” to achieve)

I am “not,” however, referring to the use of that term as used it is used in Psalm 18: 33 (or in several other places, in Scripture).  Am merely using it as I’ve just defined this phrase. (above)

Remember, your Heavenly Father, Who knows all things, and loves to share with His children ‘secrets’ of the type which are good and right for them to learn and know, though others would not understand them, or might misuse them, … wants us, as teachers of our children, to rest in Him.  He wants us to do as Mary did, in the home where she and Martha and Lazarus lived, in Bethany — to sit at His Feet, and take in all we are able to.  And relish it!  Then, He will enable us to share what we’ve been learning from Him immense storehouse of Wisdom, Understanding and Knowledge (of YHVH), with our children.
As we let Him use us to build in our children His Ways, His values, His priorities, we will see, in time, that His character qualities will become evident / seen in the way our children greet others, without coaxing, and in how they choose to serve, taking the initiative, out of Love for Him and Love for those around them.

We may wish to call those places ( that others, or even us, try to fit any of us into ) “boxes.”  Live out of the box!  You’ll be so glad you did.  (though you may not understand how your children will ‘turn out okay’ while you’re in the midst of living life as “your family” *needs* to live it.  You will see it all more clearly, afterward.  Trust!)

We need not worry, or fret.
We may not see our children get to do some things other children may get to do.  We may not see them get to go to places we dreamed they’d get to go to, even for learning purposes.  We may wish, or worry, or thankfully ask our Abba Father to let each one do this or that (activity, special event or project or contest, or educational experience), while our children are still young, but … are we laying down our lives for what is His perfect Will?  Or are we simply trying to get from our “Daddy” in Heaven what we want Him to give or do “for us?”

Have we truly surrendered every area of our lives to Him, so that He can live out His (Yeshua’s) Life in us?  hmm…  ( I know.  I know.  I have not “achieved” this, every moment of every day, myself, … nor do I claim to have reached this point as an already-overcame-it, “already-reached” goal.  But that is what He continues to attempt to “lead me” to do, every day.  Am so-o thankful He is still willing to “work on me” in this respect, day after day!  He is so-o-o merciful and long-suffering with me!! {and with you!} )

I have personally seen Him arrange some of our life situations, and even places where we have lived / served Him, in ways which He, then, reveals to us that He had planned, beforehand.  How?  Because we saw Him unfold before several of our children opportunities for learning some skills or things that interested them, … and we observed His arranging those things and revealing them to our children.  And, it was so wonderful to get to see!

These were things (skills; knowledge) we could not seem to find a way for our children to get to learn, in any other way, at that time in their lives when they wanted to, had prayed about it happening.  (I had tried …!)  Now, those children have something to share with others they meet, or get to know, … about how YHVH chose to work in their lives to do something amazing and suited to each of them.  What a blessing!  He gets the glory and thanks and praise for it!  ( HalleluYah! )


He cares about the details, friends!  —

He knows what our children yearn for, or that we yearn for, … for good purposes.  … and for His glory.  He will *take care* of things, as we do our part to walk with Him, abide in Him, and do what He has instructed us to do, in His Word.

(By the way, we have to yield our rights and expectations to him, as king David realized he also had to do:  see Psalm 62: 5 and Psalm 27: 14 for a couple of places in which David mentions this.)



He will “cover” the rest.  (!)

( By the way, if you’re not sure what steps to take, or ‘how to see what He wants you to do’ to trust Him or to obey Him in a practical, day to day, moment by moment, way, leave me a comment in the comment box below this “post.”  I’ll do what I can to contact you and help you.  He {YHVH} has shared some things to help me see things more clearly, over time.  Others have helped me, also, with Wisdom He has shared with them.  But, I don’t know any more than what He has developed within me, thus far.  The good news is:  there are many other home-educating ladies who also know these same truths, and have applied the step-by-step practical thoughts and actions to the truths they’ve been gleaning from the spiritual Understanding He has been teaching them.  {sorry that was so long; hoping it makes sense}  The “blogging world” seems to be “full” of them! )

I know, often, it seems rather difficult to just do those two things. (1. Trust YHVH, and  2. Obey Him.)  Some life circumstances seem so impossible to deal with, at times.  (aagh!)

Yet, He is still there with us.  And, if we will look for Him in our life circumstances, and call upon Him, He will show us His Loving presence.  What a comfort it is to know He is going through it “with” us (by His choice)!  (wow!)

He, then, delivers us, or restores us, or heals us, or does whatever is needed, though (at times) in ways we would not have thought of.  He is so creative!  EL Shaddai “means” He will become whatever we need Him to become, in order to cover us, nourish us, and take care of us!

Let’s rejoice in Him, as we see Him manifest the Love He has for each of us, and for each of our children, without any pre-conceived ideas (of our own) about how we think things should go.  (I’ve done that!  Those pre-conceived ideas — maybe I should call them ‘strongholds’ I had not realized I had allowed the enemy to construct within my soul / mind — had to be knocked down flat {!},  … never to rise again!)

Let’s rest in Him (YHVH, our Loving Father in Heaven, Whose plans are all for our good and for “an expected end [result]”).

Rest in His loving, everlasting Arms.  Like those of a dearly beloved daddy, who has treated us kindly all our lives, and has patiently helped us along, when we were struggling, and has forgiven us willingly, even when we were slow to admit what we’d done wrong.

Oh, how patient, kind-hearted and gentle is our Heavenly Father’s Love for us!  (oh my!)

Grace and Shalom, friends!
(just wanted to share these thoughts with you all)

… for those who are new to reading this blog …

If you are new here, please keep in mind, I do not use my blog as many others use their blogs.
That means, I only write on this blog as I see I can make time to do that.
Our lives are quite full, aren’t they?  … especially for those of us who are moms, or those of us who still have little ones, or young ones, … in our families.   But that (the busy-ness of life) is also true of those who are not moms.

I also do not ‘file’ all my posts under the ‘category’ which would allow all my posts, on this blog, to also appear in chronological order.  So, you may miss some recent posts on my blog, if you do not check all the various “tabs” at the top of my main blog page.  (okay?)

Hope this helps you!

Shalom! (to all)

~ threads of silver blog owner ~

As I consider a modest lifestyle …

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As I consider a modest lifestyle, … I see that (according to some others) that the word “modest” is defined (by some) in a different way than what I have come to believe it means (over more than 3 decades), in its inherent meaning, by The One Who is the original Definer and Designer of all things in the universe.

I do realize that, as I look at what a word “means,” … I may (without realizing it) interject into that word some “flavor of my own” into it.  It may happen that I would, without seeing I have done it, … add to what is in the inherent, or original, meaning of a particular word I have studied.  Am aware, also, that that would be part of the anti-YHVH attitude, to do that.  And, in my own being, I am well aware that I must not do that.  (okay?)

As I begin to share more thoughts on what modesty is (at my level of spiritual understanding in YHVH, as He continues to instruct me in His Way), and share what I must consider as I ponder (meditate on; think about) what true modesty (in my lifestyle), should “look like” to my Father in Heaven and to people on earth (seeing myself in that lifestyle, as one who is simply trying to live out what I have seen my Father in Heaven teaching me, over many years), I *must* look at “modesty” from the perspective of YHVH.  Otherwise, I am wasting my time.  (okay?)


There are several things I must include … as I consider a modest lifestyle:

1.   Am I considering the motives of my heart?  or am I only considering the outward manifestation of what I ‘ponder’ in my heart?

2.  Am I focusing (mainly) on what I should do?   am I focusing (mainly) on what I will dress like?

3.  Am I thinking about what I have seen others wear, figuring that “they exemplify” a (more) modest type of lifestyle than the way I have been clothing myself?   or do I think these others exemplify a (more) modest type of lifestyle (in the way they clothe themselves) … because I have not done my own research on this topic, yet?

4.  Are there any other considerations or thoughts of mine, or from YHVH’s Word, that I am including in what I am “thinking” will show what is in my heart, regarding modesty?  or do I realize “what is in my own heart” regarding modesty, yet?  Should I include that in the way I will clothe myself?  ( I mean, should I include ‘my own heart motives’ in how I clothe myself? )

5.  Where are some wise ‘places’ from which I could begin to (or continue to) learn more about (true) modesty?  — online.  — in books (which ones will prove to be helpful to me, in my quest to learn what YHVH teaches is “a modest lifestyle?”).  — from others (who should I ask about this topic?)

6.  After my research has reached a point of my beginning to apply it to the way I clothe myself, … then what is a frugal (wise), but not icky-looking (a looks-good-on-me kind of look, yet *not* considered by some to be “‘fashionable,”  it *does* please my Father in Heaven, also, and above all else — yes, this *is* significant!), way to “dress?”    And, should I care what others may say to me about the way I begin to dress (clothe myself), from that point onward?

7.   Is there anything else, or anyone else, I should do, or think about, … while pondering what is “a modest lifestyle?”  If there is, then what is that? (or who are those I should ‘remember to think about?’)   And, *what* should I do about that?  ( I mean, what actions should I take, to be sure I am taking into consideration “all” that my Father YHVH would want me to include? )

** I will continue sharing more about this, … over time.  Please check back to find out what I will share here.  And, … please begin thinking about what has been asked.  It was shared here just to inspire some thoughts of your own to begin to flow.   (okay?)

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Dec. 2011  … more thoughts about what I am thinking about, as I consider a modest lifestyle ….

The motives of my heart are not all good.  Am figuring most (who read this blog, at any time) already know that is true.   If in doubt, please read Jeremiah 17:9 – 13, especially verse 9.  In it, you’ll find out why I sayd my heart motives are not all good.

It is also true that I must ‘test’ or ‘examine’ my own motives for any thought I let become converted into words I speak, and for any attitude I allow to be converted into a thought and then into either an action or a word (or two, or more).
If I do *not* check myself (… my own motives), … I will find that I can mess up “royally” in (maybe only later) realizing I showed that my motives did *not* originate, nor were they “from” Heaven, in something I said or did, or in an attitude I demonstrated through words or actions.  (ouch!)
In other words, YHVH (through His Son, Yeshua) instructs me to do all I can to hear Him (Sh’ma = hear [an action of hearing] ).  Then, as I am hearing what He is telling me to do, … each day, … I am to double-check that I am hearing Him from His perspective, and not just from my own, human perspective.  He is pure!  I am to hear Him “clear-ly (in a pure way, as He is “pure”)” and in hearing Him, my intent, goal, is to obey what He is saying to (instructing) me, to do.

If I clothe myself in an immodest way, He might say He does understand (in one sense).  But, I do not believe I should assume He will excuse any unwillingness (on my part; “the will” means my “choose-er”) to double-check, or to do my own research, what I “need” to learn about, in order to obey Him fully.  I am on this earth to bring honor and praise to my Adonai (Master; Controller of all things) Whose personal Name is YHVH (The Eternal One; The Self-Existent One; The I AM; The Instruction Giver Who taught Moshe what were His Instructions to His people who had put their trusting belief in Him, as The Most High, The Only One, to Whom they owed their lives and their worship).

Since my life on earth is to reflect Him (and by doing this, I reflect The Image of His Son, Yeshua The Messiah), how can I say I am reflecting back to Him some of His glory, or His Image, or some form of my Love for Him, that I am learning through what His Son has taught, in The Word (written), … *if* the way I clothe myself does *not* honor His Name?

I must take this topic seriously, or else I am not taking what He commanded me to do, while I live, as something He takes very seriously.

Yeshua taught us to be watchful.  Watch, and pray. (He said)

If I keep watch over, or guard, my own heart, and its motives (which are not always good), then I am more likely to do what pleases my Abba Father.  Right?  Yes!

If I get lazy, and just figure “oh well; my Father in Heaven “understands” how I am,” … or, if I say “He knows me! And He still loves me!,” … (or some other, similar statement I might make, … and in my own case, I ‘have made’ in the past), then I should think about this:  what if He told me, in His Word, *not* to look as if I am un-clothed before His Face?
What if, to His Eyes, I look like I am flaunting my body’s shape before others, whose eyes are not redeemed, or else, before the eyes of those who “are the redeemed of YHVH,” by wearing any type of clothing that ‘hugs’ my body, and its shape is made quite obvious to anyone who sees me, even if only in my own house …?

I just need to do what I can to see that my body’s shape is only ‘quite obvious’ to my own husband, if I am married.  (I am)  And, if I am not married, why would I want others, including other boys who are too young to be married, … to see the shape of my body, which (to YHVH, as taught in His Word) ‘defiles’ their souls?

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I realize this is a grave (serious) subject!  Yet, it is quite serious to our Father in Heaven!  If it is something He thinks we ladies (and men) should consider and take seriously, then we should make it very important as one of our Father’s important teachings (which of His teachings are *not* important to those who have put their trust in His Name?)!

Please, join me, again soon, as I continue to explore more about what I should think about, … as I consider a modest lifestyle ….



my thoughts on modesty, part two

Thanks to God-fearing, Word-believing ladies and mamas, plus some word studies I’ve done, below are my thoughts on modesty, the second part:

First, I will present verses or portions from The inspired, Truth-filled Word (“Thy Word is Truth” — John 17:17b) of YHWH God.

I am so thankful that …
YHWH, The God of Israel, is The Transcendent One, The Most High God, Who cannot lie, and Who can only do good and tell us what is good. Messiah Yeshua is The Way, The Truth and The Life, sent from The Father in Heaven, to provide “the cure” for those who were “dead in their sins and iniquities,” and who had no way to “be made alive.” He willingly shed His innocent, undefiled Blood on the Roman execution stake, to pay the penalty YHWH God had pronounced upon those who were “dead” spiritually, in His Sight.

… oh, how much He has done for us! …

So, if you used to be a sinner, if you have surrendered your life (in all its aspects & ways), to The One Who made you, Who knows all your thoughts, words & attitudes, and all your needs, hopes & plans, choose (in your will) to trust Him.

He is fully able to do for you far beyond what you are able to do, for yourself. And He is fully able to comfort, support & help you. He knows your every need before you are aware of what it is. He knows your deep, inner aches (desires), to be loved (as you’d like to be loved), needed & appreciated.

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Verses related to modesty: (for both gentlemen & ladies, but mainly, I will focus on ladies, since ladies will most likely read what I share, here)

Genesis 3: 1-24
… especially v. 21
One of the results of “the sin of Adam & Eve” is that YHWH God, Elohim, Who made them (& us), had to kill an animal to provide what He’d need to make “coats of skins,” with which to “clothe” Adam & Eve.

A word study on *coats (Strong’s # 3801, Hebrew)* and *clothe(d) (Strong’s #3847, Hebrew)* will help us get a clearer understanding of what our Father in Heaven wants us to know.  This will lead us to doing the right thing, in His Sight.

*coat*  — (koot – to’ – neth;  keth – o’ – neth)

Hebrew 3847 (from Strong’s):  means “to cover;” “a shirt”  (may refer, also, to a garment or robe)

Some places, in The Word, where this particular word is used include:   Genesis 37:3, 23, 31, 32, 33, and Exodus 28:4, 39, and Exodus 29:5, and Leviticus 8:7, 16:4, and I Samuel 2:19, 17:5, 38, and II Samuel 15:32, and Job 30:18, and Song of Songs 5:3, and Matthew 5:40, and Luke 6:29, and John 19:23, 21:7


*clothe* or *clothed* — (law – bash’)

Hebrew 3847 (from Strong’s):  means wrap around, i.e. (by implication), “to put on a garment” or “clothe (oneself, or another),” literally or figuratively.

(this is incomplete; please, pardon me; I *will* finish this study!)


Note:  Sorry; more interruptions (of life), again.

I will add more, as soon as I can.  (from early 2011)

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Hi !  It is now June 2, 2011.  It’s now time to add to this “part two” page where I am workin’ on sharing “my thoughts on modesty.”

Here are some more verses, in The Word of YHVH God, which I will use as part of “my thoughts on modesty” —

I Timothy 2:9-10

I believe, as you read through these two verse I have shared, you will see that “the message within the wording” becomes more clear.  (if you do some word studies on the terms in the original language of The Word, and include studies in the Israelite culture at the time Paul wrote this letter to a young “pastor” named Timothy, using an English form of his real name)

In my understanding, these verses seem to clearly indicate that a woman’s (the Scripture, here, assumes that the women being spoken about, in these verses, is what I would call “a true believer in Messiah Yeshua”) adornment should, first, be her heart / soul attitude.  To me, that is a spirit.  If my spirit or attitude is one of love (sincerely, purely) between myself and my Lord Redeemer (Yeshua, God’s Son), then “shamefacedness” and “sobriety” indicate a sort of “bashfulness” and “modesty” or “awe (toward God)” — that’s bashfulness.  Sobriety, to me, indicates an attitude of “soundness of mind,” “sanity,” or “self-control.”  I am also using terms that James Strong uses in his “concordance.”

If any of my readers would like me to also use definitions of these particular words, from the 1828 version, called _Noah Webster’s First Edition of An American Dictionary of the English Language_, … I can do that. (in time)

(Note:  I *have* also studied the words used, as defined by some who seem to have a pretty good grasp of the culture at that time and who compared what they took the words to mean with what God’s standards seem to be, from the Old Covenant / the Tanakh / and The Torah.  There are some wonderfully helpful websites which share a correct view of the standards which YHVH God “set up” for His chosen people to abide by.  When I have re-found those site links I have stored in my “files,” I will share them with you.  If you have some to share, leave me a message or a comment.  All comments are moderated.)

Also, from I Timothy 2:10, the word “godliness,” used in the KJV Bible, I understand to mean, as James Strong shares:  “devoutness, i.e., piety.”  That word comes from another word that means:  “reverent of God, i.e., pious.”

Pious means:  (from “the 1828…”) “Godly; reverencing and honoring The Supreme Being {YHVH} in heart and in the practice of the duties He has enjoined; having due veneration and affection for the character of {YHVH} God, and habitually obeying His commands; ….”


Speaking of married ladies, Yeshua’s disciple Peter shared, in I Peter 3:3 (and in verses just before that one), thoughts that indicate a realization that one’s behavior (translated, in the KJV, using the word “conversation” — it means “behavior” or “how one lives or conducts oneself”) *does* affect others, including a woman’s husband.

In I Peter 3:3, the word “adorning” is used.  We would do well to learn what we should understand that word to mean for us, from YHVH God’s perspective, in practical terms.  Adorning, according to James Strong’s interpretation of it, means:  “orderly, i.e., decorous,” and is taken to mean “of good behavior,” or “modest.”  It is close to a related word which means:  “to put in (proper) order, i.e., decorate.”  That related words’ “translated meanings” are:  “adorn,” “decorate,” and “trim.”

So, as one would appropriately “decorate” or “adorn” oneself, as a lady who is a true believer in The Son of YHVH God (Yeshua), in a suitable manner, in order to please (only) her Redeemer, one should “adorn” oneself with “modest apparel.”


In I Timothy 2:9, the word, in KJV, translated as “apparel,” means:  (from “the 1828…”)  clothing, vesture; garments; dress.  It also can refer to one’s “appearance.”  Apparently, in Noah Webster’s time, in early America, with “believers” dressing in what I’d call “modest apparel,” those who were known to be believers, “appear(ed) in the natural apparel of simplicity.”  Nothing fancy, or showy, or worn in an attempt to gain someone’s attention of the opposite sex / gender for the sake of praise or for immoral reasons, by those who were “believers,” at that time.  Those who did “that (dressing immodestly)” were usually shunned, or ignored, or punished by the local authorities, in some manner.

In I Peter 3:3, the word translated “apparel,” is a different word than what is used in I Timothy 2:9.  This word comes from a word that means:  “to put on” and it seems to indicate a “dress (inner or outer).”  It is taken, by James Strong, to indicate:  “apparel, cloke (cloak), clothes, garment, raiment, robe, vesture.”

Those, in the culture at the time of the Apostle Paul’s life, who were known as “true believers” in Messiah Yeshua, were knowledgeable, as Paul was, that “to be clothed” *did* mean that a woman was “covered” from head to foot.  There is no misunderstanding this.  I’ve read enough studies on the culture at that time, to see it this way.  If you disagree, you may share your views in a comment.  All comments are moderated.  I trust you will understand that, if your information can be validated / confirmed through other, trusted believers I am in contact with, who know much more than I know about the culture during Paul’s lifetime and that of Yeshua’s lifetime on earth, … then, I will consider sharing your insights in a future post, on this site.


The link, below, should take you to a video I believe is good in what it shares, in words on the video screen, about what the idea is, that I have in mind, for what a Godly, virtuous woman, a woman of modesty in character, is like:


The video was shared, in Aug. of 2008, by “aflame4God” as the sharer’s name on you-tube.


This study could include more insights from The Word.  I figure it will.  At this point, I will take a break and see if anyone “does” want to share a comment with me, before I move on.  If so, I will check those.  If not, I will (soon) continue with more word studies, and share more verses / passages from YHVH God’s Word.

The Torah shares with us the standards for clothing oneself as taught by YHVH God to Moshe / Moses, to write down for God’s chosen people to live by.  Within The Torah, I have recently learned (but have not shared here, yet) some specific verses which state that the directions / instructions (these are the English meanings for the word “Torah”) taught to Moshe / Moses by YHVH God were “the same” for the Gentiles / foreigners living among the Israelites / Hebrews,  those called “strangers” who were living among them or who accompanied them from Egypt.

So, in case some, who read this, believe that Gentiles, or those who believe they have no Hebrew or Jewish “roots” from their own, personal, past generations of “relations,” you were also thought of, lovingly, by YHVH God, when He told Moshe / Moses to write down the “standards” by which He (YHVH God, our ELohim) wanted His children (that’s us, if we are “true believers” who have been engrafted into His Vine!) to abide by, live by.

If I were to look for an excuse I figured was valid, even from God’s perspective, … would that indicate that I may be hoping for a reason to disobey Him?  Or would I be showing that I wish He would lower His standards, for me?  Or would I be demonstrating “agape Love” for Yeshua, as He asked Peter about his love for Yeshua, in the Gospel Yochanan / John wrote, in chapter 21:15-17 ?  Peter only seemed to understand that he was able to “phileo” Yeshua, meaning he only understood he could show “love as a friend” to Yeshua.  But Yeshua was clearly asking Peter if Peter would choose to “agape Love” Yeshua!  … now, that’s something to ponder!

So, does the mode of apparel, the type of clothing, and ways I clothe my body, show to my Maker, my Redeemer, my “Best Friend,” how much I “agape Love” Him?  or does it show I do not “agape Love” Him as I suppose I do?  (ouch!)  Let’s examine that, within our own souls.  One day, we must answer for the choices we have made, and those which we were unwilling to let Him change, in us.  I hope to please Him.  I trust you do, also.


Found what I’d call a “very positive” and “quite truthful,” meaning that (in my humble opinion, this is in agreement with what YHVH God’s Word teaches; remember, this is according to my personal convictions & my personal opinions)  This video was shared on “you-tube” by Bruce Herwig, posted on Nov. 1, 2008, and a link shared in the “more info.” area, below the video “screen” is for Trinity Church, Redlands, CA:  http://www.trinityonline.org


I’d say that, even though she does not cite lots of passages or verses from YHVH God’s Word, in her presentation to those to whom she was speaking, she did a very good job of summing up what I also believe has been going on, in churches in America, for one, and also she sums up some of the things women (especially “believers” or those who call themselves “Christians”) need to be aware of, and what those women “need” to do, in obedience to YHVH’s teachings, instructions, commands and His Way of Life, in Truth.

What we wear, men or women, who are believers in Messiah Yeshua, “does” tell others about what is our inner value system, and what is our real relationship with The One in Whom we say we believe and follow / walk with, and what motivates us, including what we want others to think about, when they see us, either at home or in public.


This video is shared by “aflame4God” on you-tube.  This is part 1 of 2 parts.  The second video part is shared in the second link, below this first one, just below here:



I believe these two videos, done with tasteful, peaceful music in the background, plus the sound of rain falling, … along with a bit of thunder, … played quietly, plus just words on the video screen, should give any who read the words a good idea of what modesty is, in YHVH God’s view.

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Some other moms have shared about modesty.  Please read what is below here.  I was encouraged and inspired to read what was shared, that I, now, share with you.

A wise, God-honoring mom I know shared her thoughts & verses she’d studied, about modesty, on her blog called This Pilgrimage. She wrote it in five parts.
Parts 1 through 5 can be found at the links, below:


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Another perspective, shared by someone else:

Below is a link which should take you to a webpage on which one writer (a believer in Yeshua) has shared with the site owner (who is not the writer of the information on that page; who *is* a believer in Yeshua) … his / her thoughts about “The Bible’s Dress Code,” regarding how “the people of God” should dress modestly.


At the top of this webpage is a disclaimer, which states (I have copied it here for you):   “Disclaimer: As with another page I have on this site. I did not write this article. Keep that in mind when writing me okay?”  (it’s in red)

So, for my readers of this blog of mine, I also am making use of this disclaimer.

I would also guess that the writer of the information (on the webpage I’ve shared a link to) may be from the southern part of the United States, just by the wording used.  In other words, though I am also from the more-southwestern part of the U.S., I would not word what I’d have to say about clothing oneself modestly using the same exact words as this writer has used on the referenced webpage.  However, it is still worth reading!

And by what I said, I do not insult the writer.  I merely mention it because there may be some of you who may read the information shared … and criticize the writer, only because of his or her style of writing or of wording he or she has chosen to use is not like yours.  That would be unjust to do.

So, please read it for what benefit it can bring to your thoughts, when pondering the topic of modesty for both men and women, who claim to be true believers in YHVH God’s Son, Yeshua The Messiah.  This is a serious topic!  All who claim they are on their way to Heaven must consider it.  Why?  Because YHVH God has made His teachings clear on this topic, in The Word He inspired men to write on parchment. (sheepskin, originally)

His Teachings should be considered to be, from His Perspective, on an equal level with His Commands.  He expects and desires for His Children, Who say they have put their trust in Him, to do what He has taught them to do.  So, if you are a true believer in The Lord YHVH, in The True God Who inhabits eternity, Who rides on the clouds, and sits on the circle of the earth, Who made all things in this universe we live in, … then, these teachings “do” apply to you, and to me.

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