… so little time, “so much” to do (in home-based learning) …

It is amazing how many of us are seeing that there are quite a few positive options for learning, yet … there still seems to be “so little time” to do it in, … within each day’s “learning time slot.”  That thought process seems to leave many of us with a feeling that we have not accomplished what our (parental / tutor) goals were, or even what our children would like to learn “this year” (or last year, either …).

Take heart, ladies!  Our Heavenly Father knows exactly what He wants each of your (or my) children to learn!  He knows when will be “a very good time (called, by some, “a teachable moment”)” for you to reach the heart of your child, who seems to learn better auditorially, more than visually, … or … for your child who seems to learn better kinesthetically, more than visually or auditorially.

(… did I spell those words correctly?  hmm…)

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Remember, “…be strong in YHVH (translated in KJV as “The LORD”) and in the power of His Might.”  — from Ephesians 6:10

Remember, our Heavenly Father is without limit in what He can teach each of us, and enable us to know, so that we can, then, share that, … with enthusiasm (which comes from inner Joy He puts into those who are His, by the working of His Holy Spirit), … with our children He has lent to us, for a time, until we all get to see Him face to Face.  ( oh!  HalleluYah! )

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Remember what is shared in Psalm 147: 5  … His (YHVH’s — our Heavenly Father’s) “understanding” is infinite.

Even if our English version is not exactly correct from what was stated in the original language, of Hebrew, it still does state:  His understanding is infinite.  No limits to what He knows “and” understands!

If we are in His Son, Yeshua (true), and if Yeshua and YHVH are Echad / united / “one (true),” and if He gives us (who believe and obey His Instructions) “the mind of Messiah {Yeshua},” then it does seem true that we do have access (because He wants us to have this) to the understanding of The One Who designed the entire universe more-than-fantastically, more-than-wonderfully, and more-than-amazingly and -awesomely.

To me, that tells me He will give me the knowledge & understanding I need to teach my children.  Will I trust Him to do that?  Will I be seeking His Face, daily, in order to “hear (shema / sh’ma — which means, in the Hebrew, to hear with the intent to obey)” Him?
In other words, will I allow Him to lead, and not me? (ouch!)
Will I listen very intently, and with all my attention?  … not allowing myself to become distracted from doing that, except when there is no way to avoid some of my responsibilities, which do draw me away from giving Him my undivided attention, while praying, or while crying out to Him, … either in private, or among others with whom I live, ….
Note:  We have a small place we live in.  It’s not easy to find a place within that place, where we can be alone for very long at one time.

Nevertheless, will I do, with my Abba Father, as I have taught my children to do, when I speak to them, expecting them to listen intently and with all their attention?  (ouch!)  He certainly deserves my undivided attention.
One missionary solved the ‘interruption while praying’ problem, by bringing a notebook of paper with him, to use while he prayed.  Yes!  It was for interrupting thoughts the enemy would try to bring to him, but in his case, he wrote down the ones which had to do with ‘things’ he saw YHVH was using the enemy to bring to the missionary’s mind, so he could pray about and deal with those, while praying.  That way, those were dealt with, and all ended up with a good (God-glorifying) result.  (yay!  — I mean, “HalleluYah!” with a mighty, thankful shout to Him to Whom all is due )

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Some of us have a tendency to think in terms of what some ‘former educators’ have termed:  high places (of intellectual knowledge)
Honestly, those are dangerous places to visit, even if only in one’s mind.  (okay?)  I’ve visited them.  It is, indeed, a waste of time, to try to fit one’s children, or one’s spouse, or one’s own self, into what anyone else on earth has stated or ‘claimed’ any one (person) needs to fit into.


Because, by doing that, we are aiming toward some form of disappointment, or toward failure of one kind or another, or toward frustration.

“High places” are simply not needed, friends.  High places (by the definition of the one whom I heard speak on this, some years back), are (what I’d call) requirements or expectations regarding high, academic goals (or intellectual levels, or knowledge levels) you, or I, may assume / figure / reckon we “need” to achieve. (or that our children “need” to achieve)

I am “not,” however, referring to the use of that term as used it is used in Psalm 18: 33 (or in several other places, in Scripture).  Am merely using it as I’ve just defined this phrase. (above)

Remember, your Heavenly Father, Who knows all things, and loves to share with His children ‘secrets’ of the type which are good and right for them to learn and know, though others would not understand them, or might misuse them, … wants us, as teachers of our children, to rest in Him.  He wants us to do as Mary did, in the home where she and Martha and Lazarus lived, in Bethany — to sit at His Feet, and take in all we are able to.  And relish it!  Then, He will enable us to share what we’ve been learning from Him immense storehouse of Wisdom, Understanding and Knowledge (of YHVH), with our children.
As we let Him use us to build in our children His Ways, His values, His priorities, we will see, in time, that His character qualities will become evident / seen in the way our children greet others, without coaxing, and in how they choose to serve, taking the initiative, out of Love for Him and Love for those around them.

We may wish to call those places ( that others, or even us, try to fit any of us into ) “boxes.”  Live out of the box!  You’ll be so glad you did.  (though you may not understand how your children will ‘turn out okay’ while you’re in the midst of living life as “your family” *needs* to live it.  You will see it all more clearly, afterward.  Trust!)

We need not worry, or fret.
We may not see our children get to do some things other children may get to do.  We may not see them get to go to places we dreamed they’d get to go to, even for learning purposes.  We may wish, or worry, or thankfully ask our Abba Father to let each one do this or that (activity, special event or project or contest, or educational experience), while our children are still young, but … are we laying down our lives for what is His perfect Will?  Or are we simply trying to get from our “Daddy” in Heaven what we want Him to give or do “for us?”

Have we truly surrendered every area of our lives to Him, so that He can live out His (Yeshua’s) Life in us?  hmm…  ( I know.  I know.  I have not “achieved” this, every moment of every day, myself, … nor do I claim to have reached this point as an already-overcame-it, “already-reached” goal.  But that is what He continues to attempt to “lead me” to do, every day.  Am so-o thankful He is still willing to “work on me” in this respect, day after day!  He is so-o-o merciful and long-suffering with me!! {and with you!} )

I have personally seen Him arrange some of our life situations, and even places where we have lived / served Him, in ways which He, then, reveals to us that He had planned, beforehand.  How?  Because we saw Him unfold before several of our children opportunities for learning some skills or things that interested them, … and we observed His arranging those things and revealing them to our children.  And, it was so wonderful to get to see!

These were things (skills; knowledge) we could not seem to find a way for our children to get to learn, in any other way, at that time in their lives when they wanted to, had prayed about it happening.  (I had tried …!)  Now, those children have something to share with others they meet, or get to know, … about how YHVH chose to work in their lives to do something amazing and suited to each of them.  What a blessing!  He gets the glory and thanks and praise for it!  ( HalleluYah! )


He cares about the details, friends!  —

He knows what our children yearn for, or that we yearn for, … for good purposes.  … and for His glory.  He will *take care* of things, as we do our part to walk with Him, abide in Him, and do what He has instructed us to do, in His Word.

(By the way, we have to yield our rights and expectations to him, as king David realized he also had to do:  see Psalm 62: 5 and Psalm 27: 14 for a couple of places in which David mentions this.)



He will “cover” the rest.  (!)

( By the way, if you’re not sure what steps to take, or ‘how to see what He wants you to do’ to trust Him or to obey Him in a practical, day to day, moment by moment, way, leave me a comment in the comment box below this “post.”  I’ll do what I can to contact you and help you.  He {YHVH} has shared some things to help me see things more clearly, over time.  Others have helped me, also, with Wisdom He has shared with them.  But, I don’t know any more than what He has developed within me, thus far.  The good news is:  there are many other home-educating ladies who also know these same truths, and have applied the step-by-step practical thoughts and actions to the truths they’ve been gleaning from the spiritual Understanding He has been teaching them.  {sorry that was so long; hoping it makes sense}  The “blogging world” seems to be “full” of them! )

I know, often, it seems rather difficult to just do those two things. (1. Trust YHVH, and  2. Obey Him.)  Some life circumstances seem so impossible to deal with, at times.  (aagh!)

Yet, He is still there with us.  And, if we will look for Him in our life circumstances, and call upon Him, He will show us His Loving presence.  What a comfort it is to know He is going through it “with” us (by His choice)!  (wow!)

He, then, delivers us, or restores us, or heals us, or does whatever is needed, though (at times) in ways we would not have thought of.  He is so creative!  EL Shaddai “means” He will become whatever we need Him to become, in order to cover us, nourish us, and take care of us!

Let’s rejoice in Him, as we see Him manifest the Love He has for each of us, and for each of our children, without any pre-conceived ideas (of our own) about how we think things should go.  (I’ve done that!  Those pre-conceived ideas — maybe I should call them ‘strongholds’ I had not realized I had allowed the enemy to construct within my soul / mind — had to be knocked down flat {!},  … never to rise again!)

Let’s rest in Him (YHVH, our Loving Father in Heaven, Whose plans are all for our good and for “an expected end [result]”).

Rest in His loving, everlasting Arms.  Like those of a dearly beloved daddy, who has treated us kindly all our lives, and has patiently helped us along, when we were struggling, and has forgiven us willingly, even when we were slow to admit what we’d done wrong.

Oh, how patient, kind-hearted and gentle is our Heavenly Father’s Love for us!  (oh my!)

Grace and Shalom, friends!
(just wanted to share these thoughts with you all)

As I consider a modest lifestyle …

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As I consider a modest lifestyle, … I see that (according to some others) that the word “modest” is defined (by some) in a different way than what I have come to believe it means (over more than 3 decades), in its inherent meaning, by The One Who is the original Definer and Designer of all things in the universe.

I do realize that, as I look at what a word “means,” … I may (without realizing it) interject into that word some “flavor of my own” into it.  It may happen that I would, without seeing I have done it, … add to what is in the inherent, or original, meaning of a particular word I have studied.  Am aware, also, that that would be part of the anti-YHVH attitude, to do that.  And, in my own being, I am well aware that I must not do that.  (okay?)

As I begin to share more thoughts on what modesty is (at my level of spiritual understanding in YHVH, as He continues to instruct me in His Way), and share what I must consider as I ponder (meditate on; think about) what true modesty (in my lifestyle), should “look like” to my Father in Heaven and to people on earth (seeing myself in that lifestyle, as one who is simply trying to live out what I have seen my Father in Heaven teaching me, over many years), I *must* look at “modesty” from the perspective of YHVH.  Otherwise, I am wasting my time.  (okay?)


There are several things I must include … as I consider a modest lifestyle:

1.   Am I considering the motives of my heart?  or am I only considering the outward manifestation of what I ‘ponder’ in my heart?

2.  Am I focusing (mainly) on what I should do?   am I focusing (mainly) on what I will dress like?

3.  Am I thinking about what I have seen others wear, figuring that “they exemplify” a (more) modest type of lifestyle than the way I have been clothing myself?   or do I think these others exemplify a (more) modest type of lifestyle (in the way they clothe themselves) … because I have not done my own research on this topic, yet?

4.  Are there any other considerations or thoughts of mine, or from YHVH’s Word, that I am including in what I am “thinking” will show what is in my heart, regarding modesty?  or do I realize “what is in my own heart” regarding modesty, yet?  Should I include that in the way I will clothe myself?  ( I mean, should I include ‘my own heart motives’ in how I clothe myself? )

5.  Where are some wise ‘places’ from which I could begin to (or continue to) learn more about (true) modesty?  — online.  — in books (which ones will prove to be helpful to me, in my quest to learn what YHVH teaches is “a modest lifestyle?”).  — from others (who should I ask about this topic?)

6.  After my research has reached a point of my beginning to apply it to the way I clothe myself, … then what is a frugal (wise), but not icky-looking (a looks-good-on-me kind of look, yet *not* considered by some to be “‘fashionable,”  it *does* please my Father in Heaven, also, and above all else — yes, this *is* significant!), way to “dress?”    And, should I care what others may say to me about the way I begin to dress (clothe myself), from that point onward?

7.   Is there anything else, or anyone else, I should do, or think about, … while pondering what is “a modest lifestyle?”  If there is, then what is that? (or who are those I should ‘remember to think about?’)   And, *what* should I do about that?  ( I mean, what actions should I take, to be sure I am taking into consideration “all” that my Father YHVH would want me to include? )

** I will continue sharing more about this, … over time.  Please check back to find out what I will share here.  And, … please begin thinking about what has been asked.  It was shared here just to inspire some thoughts of your own to begin to flow.   (okay?)

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Dec. 2011  … more thoughts about what I am thinking about, as I consider a modest lifestyle ….

The motives of my heart are not all good.  Am figuring most (who read this blog, at any time) already know that is true.   If in doubt, please read Jeremiah 17:9 – 13, especially verse 9.  In it, you’ll find out why I sayd my heart motives are not all good.

It is also true that I must ‘test’ or ‘examine’ my own motives for any thought I let become converted into words I speak, and for any attitude I allow to be converted into a thought and then into either an action or a word (or two, or more).
If I do *not* check myself (… my own motives), … I will find that I can mess up “royally” in (maybe only later) realizing I showed that my motives did *not* originate, nor were they “from” Heaven, in something I said or did, or in an attitude I demonstrated through words or actions.  (ouch!)
In other words, YHVH (through His Son, Yeshua) instructs me to do all I can to hear Him (Sh’ma = hear [an action of hearing] ).  Then, as I am hearing what He is telling me to do, … each day, … I am to double-check that I am hearing Him from His perspective, and not just from my own, human perspective.  He is pure!  I am to hear Him “clear-ly (in a pure way, as He is “pure”)” and in hearing Him, my intent, goal, is to obey what He is saying to (instructing) me, to do.

If I clothe myself in an immodest way, He might say He does understand (in one sense).  But, I do not believe I should assume He will excuse any unwillingness (on my part; “the will” means my “choose-er”) to double-check, or to do my own research, what I “need” to learn about, in order to obey Him fully.  I am on this earth to bring honor and praise to my Adonai (Master; Controller of all things) Whose personal Name is YHVH (The Eternal One; The Self-Existent One; The I AM; The Instruction Giver Who taught Moshe what were His Instructions to His people who had put their trusting belief in Him, as The Most High, The Only One, to Whom they owed their lives and their worship).

Since my life on earth is to reflect Him (and by doing this, I reflect The Image of His Son, Yeshua The Messiah), how can I say I am reflecting back to Him some of His glory, or His Image, or some form of my Love for Him, that I am learning through what His Son has taught, in The Word (written), … *if* the way I clothe myself does *not* honor His Name?

I must take this topic seriously, or else I am not taking what He commanded me to do, while I live, as something He takes very seriously.

Yeshua taught us to be watchful.  Watch, and pray. (He said)

If I keep watch over, or guard, my own heart, and its motives (which are not always good), then I am more likely to do what pleases my Abba Father.  Right?  Yes!

If I get lazy, and just figure “oh well; my Father in Heaven “understands” how I am,” … or, if I say “He knows me! And He still loves me!,” … (or some other, similar statement I might make, … and in my own case, I ‘have made’ in the past), then I should think about this:  what if He told me, in His Word, *not* to look as if I am un-clothed before His Face?
What if, to His Eyes, I look like I am flaunting my body’s shape before others, whose eyes are not redeemed, or else, before the eyes of those who “are the redeemed of YHVH,” by wearing any type of clothing that ‘hugs’ my body, and its shape is made quite obvious to anyone who sees me, even if only in my own house …?

I just need to do what I can to see that my body’s shape is only ‘quite obvious’ to my own husband, if I am married.  (I am)  And, if I am not married, why would I want others, including other boys who are too young to be married, … to see the shape of my body, which (to YHVH, as taught in His Word) ‘defiles’ their souls?

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I realize this is a grave (serious) subject!  Yet, it is quite serious to our Father in Heaven!  If it is something He thinks we ladies (and men) should consider and take seriously, then we should make it very important as one of our Father’s important teachings (which of His teachings are *not* important to those who have put their trust in His Name?)!

Please, join me, again soon, as I continue to explore more about what I should think about, … as I consider a modest lifestyle ….



my thoughts on modesty, part two

Thanks to God-fearing, Word-believing ladies and mamas, plus some word studies I’ve done, below are my thoughts on modesty, the second part:

First, I will present verses or portions from The inspired, Truth-filled Word (“Thy Word is Truth” — John 17:17b) of YHWH God.

I am so thankful that …
YHWH, The God of Israel, is The Transcendent One, The Most High God, Who cannot lie, and Who can only do good and tell us what is good. Messiah Yeshua is The Way, The Truth and The Life, sent from The Father in Heaven, to provide “the cure” for those who were “dead in their sins and iniquities,” and who had no way to “be made alive.” He willingly shed His innocent, undefiled Blood on the Roman execution stake, to pay the penalty YHWH God had pronounced upon those who were “dead” spiritually, in His Sight.

… oh, how much He has done for us! …

So, if you used to be a sinner, if you have surrendered your life (in all its aspects & ways), to The One Who made you, Who knows all your thoughts, words & attitudes, and all your needs, hopes & plans, choose (in your will) to trust Him.

He is fully able to do for you far beyond what you are able to do, for yourself. And He is fully able to comfort, support & help you. He knows your every need before you are aware of what it is. He knows your deep, inner aches (desires), to be loved (as you’d like to be loved), needed & appreciated.

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Verses related to modesty: (for both gentlemen & ladies, but mainly, I will focus on ladies, since ladies will most likely read what I share, here)

Genesis 3: 1-24
… especially v. 21
One of the results of “the sin of Adam & Eve” is that YHWH God, Elohim, Who made them (& us), had to kill an animal to provide what He’d need to make “coats of skins,” with which to “clothe” Adam & Eve.

A word study on *coats (Strong’s # 3801, Hebrew)* and *clothe(d) (Strong’s #3847, Hebrew)* will help us get a clearer understanding of what our Father in Heaven wants us to know.  This will lead us to doing the right thing, in His Sight.

*coat*  — (koot – to’ – neth;  keth – o’ – neth)

Hebrew 3847 (from Strong’s):  means “to cover;” “a shirt”  (may refer, also, to a garment or robe)

Some places, in The Word, where this particular word is used include:   Genesis 37:3, 23, 31, 32, 33, and Exodus 28:4, 39, and Exodus 29:5, and Leviticus 8:7, 16:4, and I Samuel 2:19, 17:5, 38, and II Samuel 15:32, and Job 30:18, and Song of Songs 5:3, and Matthew 5:40, and Luke 6:29, and John 19:23, 21:7


*clothe* or *clothed* — (law – bash’)

Hebrew 3847 (from Strong’s):  means wrap around, i.e. (by implication), “to put on a garment” or “clothe (oneself, or another),” literally or figuratively.

(this is incomplete; please, pardon me; I *will* finish this study!)


Note:  Sorry; more interruptions (of life), again.

I will add more, as soon as I can.  (from early 2011)

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Hi !  It is now June 2, 2011.  It’s now time to add to this “part two” page where I am workin’ on sharing “my thoughts on modesty.”

Here are some more verses, in The Word of YHVH God, which I will use as part of “my thoughts on modesty” —

I Timothy 2:9-10

I believe, as you read through these two verse I have shared, you will see that “the message within the wording” becomes more clear.  (if you do some word studies on the terms in the original language of The Word, and include studies in the Israelite culture at the time Paul wrote this letter to a young “pastor” named Timothy, using an English form of his real name)

In my understanding, these verses seem to clearly indicate that a woman’s (the Scripture, here, assumes that the women being spoken about, in these verses, is what I would call “a true believer in Messiah Yeshua”) adornment should, first, be her heart / soul attitude.  To me, that is a spirit.  If my spirit or attitude is one of love (sincerely, purely) between myself and my Lord Redeemer (Yeshua, God’s Son), then “shamefacedness” and “sobriety” indicate a sort of “bashfulness” and “modesty” or “awe (toward God)” — that’s bashfulness.  Sobriety, to me, indicates an attitude of “soundness of mind,” “sanity,” or “self-control.”  I am also using terms that James Strong uses in his “concordance.”

If any of my readers would like me to also use definitions of these particular words, from the 1828 version, called _Noah Webster’s First Edition of An American Dictionary of the English Language_, … I can do that. (in time)

(Note:  I *have* also studied the words used, as defined by some who seem to have a pretty good grasp of the culture at that time and who compared what they took the words to mean with what God’s standards seem to be, from the Old Covenant / the Tanakh / and The Torah.  There are some wonderfully helpful websites which share a correct view of the standards which YHVH God “set up” for His chosen people to abide by.  When I have re-found those site links I have stored in my “files,” I will share them with you.  If you have some to share, leave me a message or a comment.  All comments are moderated.)

Also, from I Timothy 2:10, the word “godliness,” used in the KJV Bible, I understand to mean, as James Strong shares:  “devoutness, i.e., piety.”  That word comes from another word that means:  “reverent of God, i.e., pious.”

Pious means:  (from “the 1828…”) “Godly; reverencing and honoring The Supreme Being {YHVH} in heart and in the practice of the duties He has enjoined; having due veneration and affection for the character of {YHVH} God, and habitually obeying His commands; ….”


Speaking of married ladies, Yeshua’s disciple Peter shared, in I Peter 3:3 (and in verses just before that one), thoughts that indicate a realization that one’s behavior (translated, in the KJV, using the word “conversation” — it means “behavior” or “how one lives or conducts oneself”) *does* affect others, including a woman’s husband.

In I Peter 3:3, the word “adorning” is used.  We would do well to learn what we should understand that word to mean for us, from YHVH God’s perspective, in practical terms.  Adorning, according to James Strong’s interpretation of it, means:  “orderly, i.e., decorous,” and is taken to mean “of good behavior,” or “modest.”  It is close to a related word which means:  “to put in (proper) order, i.e., decorate.”  That related words’ “translated meanings” are:  “adorn,” “decorate,” and “trim.”

So, as one would appropriately “decorate” or “adorn” oneself, as a lady who is a true believer in The Son of YHVH God (Yeshua), in a suitable manner, in order to please (only) her Redeemer, one should “adorn” oneself with “modest apparel.”


In I Timothy 2:9, the word, in KJV, translated as “apparel,” means:  (from “the 1828…”)  clothing, vesture; garments; dress.  It also can refer to one’s “appearance.”  Apparently, in Noah Webster’s time, in early America, with “believers” dressing in what I’d call “modest apparel,” those who were known to be believers, “appear(ed) in the natural apparel of simplicity.”  Nothing fancy, or showy, or worn in an attempt to gain someone’s attention of the opposite sex / gender for the sake of praise or for immoral reasons, by those who were “believers,” at that time.  Those who did “that (dressing immodestly)” were usually shunned, or ignored, or punished by the local authorities, in some manner.

In I Peter 3:3, the word translated “apparel,” is a different word than what is used in I Timothy 2:9.  This word comes from a word that means:  “to put on” and it seems to indicate a “dress (inner or outer).”  It is taken, by James Strong, to indicate:  “apparel, cloke (cloak), clothes, garment, raiment, robe, vesture.”

Those, in the culture at the time of the Apostle Paul’s life, who were known as “true believers” in Messiah Yeshua, were knowledgeable, as Paul was, that “to be clothed” *did* mean that a woman was “covered” from head to foot.  There is no misunderstanding this.  I’ve read enough studies on the culture at that time, to see it this way.  If you disagree, you may share your views in a comment.  All comments are moderated.  I trust you will understand that, if your information can be validated / confirmed through other, trusted believers I am in contact with, who know much more than I know about the culture during Paul’s lifetime and that of Yeshua’s lifetime on earth, … then, I will consider sharing your insights in a future post, on this site.


The link, below, should take you to a video I believe is good in what it shares, in words on the video screen, about what the idea is, that I have in mind, for what a Godly, virtuous woman, a woman of modesty in character, is like:


The video was shared, in Aug. of 2008, by “aflame4God” as the sharer’s name on you-tube.


This study could include more insights from The Word.  I figure it will.  At this point, I will take a break and see if anyone “does” want to share a comment with me, before I move on.  If so, I will check those.  If not, I will (soon) continue with more word studies, and share more verses / passages from YHVH God’s Word.

The Torah shares with us the standards for clothing oneself as taught by YHVH God to Moshe / Moses, to write down for God’s chosen people to live by.  Within The Torah, I have recently learned (but have not shared here, yet) some specific verses which state that the directions / instructions (these are the English meanings for the word “Torah”) taught to Moshe / Moses by YHVH God were “the same” for the Gentiles / foreigners living among the Israelites / Hebrews,  those called “strangers” who were living among them or who accompanied them from Egypt.

So, in case some, who read this, believe that Gentiles, or those who believe they have no Hebrew or Jewish “roots” from their own, personal, past generations of “relations,” you were also thought of, lovingly, by YHVH God, when He told Moshe / Moses to write down the “standards” by which He (YHVH God, our ELohim) wanted His children (that’s us, if we are “true believers” who have been engrafted into His Vine!) to abide by, live by.

If I were to look for an excuse I figured was valid, even from God’s perspective, … would that indicate that I may be hoping for a reason to disobey Him?  Or would I be showing that I wish He would lower His standards, for me?  Or would I be demonstrating “agape Love” for Yeshua, as He asked Peter about his love for Yeshua, in the Gospel Yochanan / John wrote, in chapter 21:15-17 ?  Peter only seemed to understand that he was able to “phileo” Yeshua, meaning he only understood he could show “love as a friend” to Yeshua.  But Yeshua was clearly asking Peter if Peter would choose to “agape Love” Yeshua!  … now, that’s something to ponder!

So, does the mode of apparel, the type of clothing, and ways I clothe my body, show to my Maker, my Redeemer, my “Best Friend,” how much I “agape Love” Him?  or does it show I do not “agape Love” Him as I suppose I do?  (ouch!)  Let’s examine that, within our own souls.  One day, we must answer for the choices we have made, and those which we were unwilling to let Him change, in us.  I hope to please Him.  I trust you do, also.


Found what I’d call a “very positive” and “quite truthful,” meaning that (in my humble opinion, this is in agreement with what YHVH God’s Word teaches; remember, this is according to my personal convictions & my personal opinions)  This video was shared on “you-tube” by Bruce Herwig, posted on Nov. 1, 2008, and a link shared in the “more info.” area, below the video “screen” is for Trinity Church, Redlands, CA:  http://www.trinityonline.org


I’d say that, even though she does not cite lots of passages or verses from YHVH God’s Word, in her presentation to those to whom she was speaking, she did a very good job of summing up what I also believe has been going on, in churches in America, for one, and also she sums up some of the things women (especially “believers” or those who call themselves “Christians”) need to be aware of, and what those women “need” to do, in obedience to YHVH’s teachings, instructions, commands and His Way of Life, in Truth.

What we wear, men or women, who are believers in Messiah Yeshua, “does” tell others about what is our inner value system, and what is our real relationship with The One in Whom we say we believe and follow / walk with, and what motivates us, including what we want others to think about, when they see us, either at home or in public.


This video is shared by “aflame4God” on you-tube.  This is part 1 of 2 parts.  The second video part is shared in the second link, below this first one, just below here:



I believe these two videos, done with tasteful, peaceful music in the background, plus the sound of rain falling, … along with a bit of thunder, … played quietly, plus just words on the video screen, should give any who read the words a good idea of what modesty is, in YHVH God’s view.

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Some other moms have shared about modesty.  Please read what is below here.  I was encouraged and inspired to read what was shared, that I, now, share with you.

A wise, God-honoring mom I know shared her thoughts & verses she’d studied, about modesty, on her blog called This Pilgrimage. She wrote it in five parts.
Parts 1 through 5 can be found at the links, below:


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Another perspective, shared by someone else:

Below is a link which should take you to a webpage on which one writer (a believer in Yeshua) has shared with the site owner (who is not the writer of the information on that page; who *is* a believer in Yeshua) … his / her thoughts about “The Bible’s Dress Code,” regarding how “the people of God” should dress modestly.


At the top of this webpage is a disclaimer, which states (I have copied it here for you):   “Disclaimer: As with another page I have on this site. I did not write this article. Keep that in mind when writing me okay?”  (it’s in red)

So, for my readers of this blog of mine, I also am making use of this disclaimer.

I would also guess that the writer of the information (on the webpage I’ve shared a link to) may be from the southern part of the United States, just by the wording used.  In other words, though I am also from the more-southwestern part of the U.S., I would not word what I’d have to say about clothing oneself modestly using the same exact words as this writer has used on the referenced webpage.  However, it is still worth reading!

And by what I said, I do not insult the writer.  I merely mention it because there may be some of you who may read the information shared … and criticize the writer, only because of his or her style of writing or of wording he or she has chosen to use is not like yours.  That would be unjust to do.

So, please read it for what benefit it can bring to your thoughts, when pondering the topic of modesty for both men and women, who claim to be true believers in YHVH God’s Son, Yeshua The Messiah.  This is a serious topic!  All who claim they are on their way to Heaven must consider it.  Why?  Because YHVH God has made His teachings clear on this topic, in The Word He inspired men to write on parchment. (sheepskin, originally)

His Teachings should be considered to be, from His Perspective, on an equal level with His Commands.  He expects and desires for His Children, Who say they have put their trust in Him, to do what He has taught them to do.  So, if you are a true believer in The Lord YHVH, in The True God Who inhabits eternity, Who rides on the clouds, and sits on the circle of the earth, Who made all things in this universe we live in, … then, these teachings “do” apply to you, and to me.

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The Lord’s been working on my heart

The Lord has really been “working” on my heart! — By the word “heart,” I am referring to my “right” heart (my terminology, again).  It is my “right” heart (in this case, my mind) that He has renewed and is delivering, daily, from its old ways of thinking.

The word “heart,” as used in The Word of God (English translations) usually refers to one’s soul, which includes the mind, will and emotions.  But I am using it, for the sake of this post, to refer only to my mind.

Okay, I’m realizing my terminology contains errors; if you’re still with me, you may read on at your own risk.

(Side Note:  Perhaps Noah Webster may not have appreciated a dictionary I might have put together, had I lived, as he did, in the 1700s to 1800s.  He lived from 1758 to 1843.  He worked as an educator.  He had studied law at Yale University, before that.  And he is known also as America’s first lexicographer.  However, he was also a journalist, a textbook author and a spelling reformer. Do you know what was the year in which Mr. Webster published his first dictionary of the English language (for Americans)? I didn’t realize it for a long while, myself.  But you can do an online search and learn this!  At the time he published the first English dictionary, most students between the ages of 5 and 16 were learning at home, though some were learning in one-room schoolhouses, much like our private schools of today, because the instructors were hired and paid by the parents of the students.  This was the norm, then, and it worked very well.  Farmers could read and understand the U. S. Constitution quite well, back then.  An education and life-skill training done at home or through the help of tutors in some cases, and through apprenticeship, while mastering a life skill, was the norm. That type of education produced good, God-fearing, wise lawyers, merchants, ministers, farmers and laborers. Lawyers were expected to and required to attend Christian seminaries before beginning law school education / training.  That was the norm, for lawyers.)

Back to the main topic, now.

To explain a bit, … I am using the word “heart” (in this post) to mean, in my case, more than just what motivates me to accomplish a task or speak a thought.

A. I would say my use of this word would include the concepts of the believer’s mind.

B. I’d consider my will to be my “choose-r.” (it’s not my heart)

C. And I’d consider my emotions to be my feelings, my impulses, my passions, my affections.

… I’d consider my attitude begins in and comes from my spirit.

However, my attitude, when *you* see it, as seen in actions, or words (or if you see it as an “emotional attitude”), is one that has been affected by my heart( if I allow that).

I believe my spirit should be in control of my “heart.”  If we are to “walk in The Spirit (of The Lord), we must have our physical, mental and emotional parts of ourselves submitted to our spirit, where The Holy Spirit dwells, if we are true believers.

If I let it, my actions, words (if allowed to be tainted by my emotions), will be affected by what my “not right” area of my soul that is motivated to lead, especially in women.

My heart will “compel” me to do things according to what The Truth shares in Jeremiah 17:9-10.  But I should not allow my emotions to lead & affect my “right” heart.  Believers should live by a higher standard.

If you’re still with me, let’s move on to the next thought from my “right” heart. (my mind)

My “right” heart (my mind), when fully submitted to my Lord in Heaven (God Almighty & His Son, Yeshua, and His Holy Spirit, my Teacher), will motivate me to learn more and grow closer to my Lord (Whom I love and am drawn toward, to obey and serve Him).

… this “right” heart  (mind) urges me to focus (as I begin my day) on praising His Name. (sounds more like the spirit of a believer, doesn’t it?)  I enjoy praising YHVH God’s Name, in both song and prayer!  My “right” heart (mind) has been (and is still being) renewed by The Living Word of Adonai YHVH Elohim, Who is all-Wise and knows all things that could be known well beyond human knowledge and understanding.

My “right” heart also urges me to think thoughts that are about things which are “true, … honest, … just, … pure, … lovely, … of good report,” and which are virtuous and worthy of praise. (taken from Philippians 4:8)  But, as you can see, this “right” heart is my renewed mind, governed / controlled by my spirit, which leads my mind.

Right away, as my day begins, I usually become aware that wrong thoughts and wrong motives may try to sidetrack me from reaching God’s best for the day.  I need to examine my “heart.” (my mind, not my spirit; as believers, our spirit is in agreement with The Holy Spirit, Whom our Lord has put in us, to dwell in us, never to leave.  If I let myself show a “wrong attitude,” then I have avoided the work of The Holy Spirit in my spirit and have grieved Him!  ouch!)

As soon as I am aware of those derailing engines, as God has taught me to do, I’m (still learning to be) choosing to speak a Bible verse that my Lord brings to my mind, to resist the wrong thought and replace it with a thought that pleases my Lord.  Thank You, Lord!  It works!  Hallelujah! (spoken with an enthusiastic shout!)

As God works on my “heart,” He keeps tugging at the part of my heart that still wants to motivate me to worry, or become anxious, regarding meeting the demands of a world system with so many things going wrong in our nation and in the world.  There is a way of thinking that proposes that women are the ones who worry more than men (as if it were okay for women to worry, because that is their nature or “that’s just how they are”), or get upset, or anxious, … or fearful.  (Hey, I don’t have to live thinking that way! You don’t, either, if you are “in Messiah!” {in Christ})

But as a true believer in my Lord, my Father in Heaven has given me all I need to live for Him, with Him and “in” Him. God commands me “not” to worry, be anxious, or easily angered, or upset, or fearful !! (see I Corinthians 13:4-7) (see II Timothy 1:7) (see Philippians 4:4-7)

“al tirah” is a Hebrew phrase that is also a command YHVH God has given to His children and to us, as believers whom He has engrafted into His Vine — it means “fear not.” If He asks me to do something, He also gives me the ability (His Grace) to obey Him and fulfill what He has told me to do! I must trust Him!  He rules over the entire universe!  He can carry me and my family through!  He upholds us with His Right Hand!  He delivers us!  He is able!  He is in control of all things! — He is Adonai! (the Controller)

Ephesians 1:3 shares this: “Blessed be The God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ (Yeshua the Messiah), Who hath blessed us with all spiritual blessings in Heavenly places in Christ (Messiah):”
(verse 4) “According as He hath chosen us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in Love:”

II Peter 1:3 shares this: “According as His Divine Power hath given unto us all things that pertain unto Life and Godliness, through the Knowledge of Him that hath called us to Glory and Virtue:”

Though there are many good verses related to us noticing things like worry, anxiety or fear trying to creep in to our thoughts, or attitudes, each day, I’m citing these for now.

What I may be tempted to overlook, in those is this:  The verses, just before Ephesians 1:3 and II Peter 1:3 share these two thoughts:  — (Ephesians 1:2) “Grace be to you, and Peace, from God our Father, and from The Lord Jesus Christ.” (Yeshua the Messiah) — (II Peter 1:2) “Grace and Peace be multiplied unto you through The Knowledge of God, and of Jesus (Yeshua) our Lord.”

What blessedness, to read these verses, altogether!
I usually read (study) through the Bible reading verses “in order.” But if we were to read Ephesians 1:3 or II Peter 1:3 without first reading the “verse 2’s,” we’ve missed the Power God is ready to give us, each moment of each day, if only we will submit our “right” hearts (minds) to His Holy Spirit’s leading and promptings and thoughts.  He is ever with us!

He “is” Emmanuel! He promised to ever remain with us, to enable us and help us “not” to worry, become anxious or fearful. Emmanuel came and tabernacled (dwelt in a tent, a dwelling place) with us (us, meaning people on earth).  In believers He has put His Holy Spirit into our spirit (of each believer), so we can receive the righteous, honorable thoughts He wants us to receive, and He gives us His mighty Grace to enable us to do what He tells us and compels us to do.  Yeshua (Jesus) says, in John 15:14, that we are His friends, if we do whatsoever He commands us (to do).

II Timothy 1:7 “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of Power (dunamis), and of Love (agape), and of a sound mind.” (“mind,” here, in the Greek, means discipline, self-control)

Isaiah 41:10 “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yes, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with The Right Hand of My Righteousness.”
The verse just before this shares: “Thou whom I have taken from the ends of the earth, and called thee from the chief men thereof, and said unto thee, Thou art My servant; I have chosen thee, and not cast thee away.”

(also, please read & pray, asking God to bless you with what is in Ephesians 3:16 and any verses around that one!)

Seeing that verses we seem to remember are preceded by verses that remind us of more thoughts God thinks toward us (as He mentions in Psalm 139) for our good, He seems to be reminding us that we need not worry, or wonder what next week, or next year, might bring. We need only to rest in Him. (it’s a great study to read through the verses, in God’s Word, that contain the word “rest,” when used in regard to people needing to rest in God, our El Shaddai, our all-Sufficient One).

He may be putting those preceding verses there to remind us He has chosen us and called us to be His, because of His Love for us, ….
Or He might have put those preceding verses there to remind us He has gone before us, to make the way He is asking us to walk in, or travel along.

Since He has “made the way” for us to “walk in,” He surely has worked out things so that our “walk,” along that pathway, be filled with an attitude, a “right” heart, that is able to rest (as fully as we are able, by receiving His enablement, that I call Grace) in The One Who loves us more than we understand.

If He truly has “not” given us a spirit of fear (He hasn’t!), … then do we realize why we are “feeling” fearful? (at times) Have we let ourselves, in the thinking we’ve allowed ourselves to embrace, or to ponder for awhile, slip into a trap that the enemy of our souls (satan) set for us to fall into? Have we let ourselves choose “not” to receive what God has been holding out toward us, in His Gentle, Loving Hand? It’s His Grace and Peace.

Have I begun my day without stopping to thank The One Who made me and to Whom I belong?  Have I put my mind into “the right framework” to be ready for His Grace and Peace I’m receiving, at that moment, … simply because He has offered it to me, to help me to get through that day’s responsibilities (duties)?  My day’s duties will probably include challenges, mess-ups, interruptions, distractions, and struggles.

Have I “heard” His Voice? (as I begin my day)  I can only “hear” His Voice of spiritual Understanding, Wisdom and righteous Knowledge, if I have submitted myself to The Lord & have yielded my “rights” and “expectations” to His Will.

Have I remembered that He is not the one who is trying to get me to think anxious thoughts? or to worry?  My Lord has given me His rest! I must simply accept it! He smiles, I imagine, whenever I just reach forth the hands of my “right” heart (mind) toward His open Hands of agape Love and graciousness, to receive the Grace and Peace He is ready to give to me.
He rejoices! (when we obey and receive the blessings and the help He offers us, each moment)  (see Psalm 46:1 and Exodus 14:13a)

I leave you with these two verses that are separated by at least one chapter, but they have blessed me, and do seem to have a strong connection in the ideas they share:

Isaiah 30:15 “For thus saith The Lord God, The Holy One of Israel; In returning and rest shall ye be saved; in quietness and in confidence shall be your strength:….”
Isaiah 32:17 “And the work of Righteousness shall be Peace, and the effect of Righteousness quietness and assurance for ever.”

The Joy of The Lord truly “can be” our strength. (from Nehemiah 8:10c) But will we allow it to be?

My “will” is my “choose-r.” “The Lord thy God in the midst of thee is Mighty; He will save, He will rejoice over thee with Joy; He will rest in His Love, He will Joy over thee with singing.” (Zephaniah 3:17)

I close this post with this truth that also inspires me and brings me back to the thinking my Lord wants me to think like:

Isaiah 26:3-4 “Thou (O Lord) wilt keep him in perfect Peace, whose mind is stayed (focused) on Thee : because he trusteth in Thee. Trust ye in The Lord for ever: for in The Lord JEHOVAH (YHVH) is everlasting Strength:”
(by the way, please also read through the verses just before and just after these two!)

hee hee!
Let’s rejoice in our Lord, to Whom nothing gets in the way, nor upsets Him in a way of causing Him to become anxious or worried, … nor slows Him down from reaching His goals, nor makes Him wonder if He will be able to help us when we seem to be in an impossible situation, on earth.

If He is The One Who is re-making us in the image of His dear Son (He is!), then we are becoming more and more confident (in Him alone), “keeping a quiet heart,” instead of a worried one, and trusting (in Him) more, and less and less in ourselves or anyone else on earth.

He is able! He can deliver you! (from anything evil) Evil cannot touch you. (your truest self — your spirit where God’s Holy Spirit indwells your spirit; it is not the same as your soul, in my understanding) (from I John 5:18)

He has all power in heaven and in earth! (see Matthew 28:18)  Nothing is too hard for Him. (Jeremiah 32: 17, 27) He holds all things together, and in Him all things consist. (from Colossians 1:16-17) Since this is true, He is able to alter any circumstance, if it will bring glory to His Holy Name.

If He chooses not to do what we think or hope He will do, then He has a greater reason and a higher purpose for that suffering, or that delay, or that lack of something we thought we had to have, …. He knows.

He is listening to our cries! He is hearing our yearnings! He’s been teaching me that He works when I can’t see “that” with my human eyes, on bringing about the good He has intended, from the beginning, to use to bless His children, to deliver them from evil, to accomplish the salvation of all those who He knows will “love” Him back, willingly, and to heal those whose healing will bring Him glory and praise.

He has given us all the reasons we need to fully trust Him. He has proved Himself to be trustworthy. Then, why don’t I trust Him at all times? Have I received His Grace and Peace, today? He has offered them to me. (ouch!)

(prayer) My Lord, and Redeemer, thank You for offering me your gifts, your blessings, your enabling power and your Loving Might! Help me, today, to receive all that You are giving me, freely! Show me what I have, in my soul, in my thoughts, in my motives, that is blocking me off from receiving Your Grace and Peace, my Father in Heaven! Thank You for hearing my prayer! You are awesome and generous! You love me with Your everlasting Love! Help me keep my mind on Your Truth! Hallelujah! In Yeshua’s Mighty Name. Amen.

(some *end notes*)

Yes, I am aware of the verse that shares this truth: “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” Jeremiah 17:9 That is not “the heart” I am referring to, as the heart (my “right” heart = my mind) that God is renewing day by day, and is re-conforming to His Will! (I sure hope you understand what I mean, here.)

“I, The Lord (YHVH) search the heart, try the reins (inward parts), even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings.” Jeremiah 17:10

“Blessed is the man that trusteth in the Lord (YHVH), and whose hope The Lord is.” Jeremiah 17:7

my thoughts on modesty, part one

Modesty is a topic that includes several areas to explore, in thought.

I am a lady. I see things from a believing female point of view, and was raised by certain parents, in a certain area of this country, & came to believe in The Lord Yeshua as my own Redeemer & Lord, some years ago, through understanding that I was much in need of a Saviour / Deliverer from the penalty I deserved, from The Lord, for my sins and iniquities.

So, this post is written from what I have learned, so far, in my “walk” (life path) with The Lord, through some side roads I’ve taken, though not knowingly, at the time each ‘turn’ was taken.

This is also written from my own personal convictions which I believe God’s Holy Spirit has given me, to apply to my own life.

This is not written to condemn anyone, or to sound as if I know more than most, or many. It is also not written as if I were some authority on this topic.

It is merely my understanding, from the level of understanding I am at, now, … on the topic that most (in general) call “modesty.”

Modesty is a matter of the heart. Our hearts motivate us. I would generally refer to ‘the term’ *heart* as my mind. It can refer to other areas of my soul, in some cases, but for this article (which may be written in several portions), I am referring to “the mind,” when I used the word “heart.”

Modesty is something most children naturally have. Some demonstrate this in appearing to be somewhat shy, in what they do in public, or among strangers. Some demonstrate it even among their own family members, when they are dressing or … bathing.

Some ways most ladies (and men) demonstrate modesty are seen in:

(1) how they clothe themselves, and

(2) how ladies use “accessories” such as jewelry or make-up, as well as

(3) how they adorn or arrange their hair, including how long it may be worn.

(4) how they speak with others, or with whom they may initiate a conversation, or how they respond to strangers.

Much of the language I will use will refer mainly to ladies, women. That is because this is my focus, for the sake of this article.

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Modesty is something The Lord has been teaching me about over many years. He began when I was around age 5 or 6, when I first became aware that my dresses my mom had sewn for me … as I wore some to the government school I attended, … had to be pulled down, to keep them “long enough” to cover my knees while sitting down. The short length of my dresses and skirts or jumpers made it difficult to sit, for long, in a school-desk type seat (made of hard wood or hard plastic), without feeling like someone was looking in my direction.

I did not realize it, at the time, but these were (I believe) some of the first signs of God’s Holy Spirit making me aware that how I dress does, indeed, have an effect on others. He was making me aware that I should “do something” about making the whole experience “decent” and “honorable” for both them and me.

While young, I was not the one choosing my clothing. (just so you know)

When I was 11, my mom began letting me learn to sew, a little at a time. Soon, I was able to read a sewing pattern well enough to sew some of my own clothes. It became easier, over a few years’ time, so I sewed a good number of clothes for myself, during that time, being allowed by my mom to choose patterns (styles of clothing I liked), fabrics and colors I liked, at the time.

As I was choosing patterns to use to sew garments to wear, I was becoming aware of what “covered the body” more and what did not. I believe, though am not sure I was aware of all that The Lord wanted me to learn from this process, that He was teaching me, in it, … to choose more modest clothing, as the years progressed.

After I finished high school, and began some college training, I continued to sew garments for myself. Once I had met my future husband, and our parents gave their consent for us to be married the following year, I decided to sew my own wedding dress. That was fun to do. It cost only about $50 for the entire garment! (I really like “a great deal,” financially speaking. Am a frugal thinker.) Found out it is not very hard to sew a wedding dress. I had chosen a design I liked very much, and yet, I kept things simple, in how I wanted the final wedding gown to look.

So, perhaps others would spend much more in sewing their own wedding dress, nowadays, but I believe I could show a young lady how she could spend much less, and still be happy with what she wanted “after” she’s done with sewing it.  I could even teach her how to sew, to accomplish making her own wedding dress. But the final decision is hers, as it was mine, over 30 years ago. (by the way, my parents gave me permission to make these choices myself)

After some more years went by, and God, each day, was still faithfully teaching me more and more about dressing more modestly, … the styles of clothing I was choosing to wear began to change, again.

I had been raised to think that girls and young ladies wearing “pants” (girls’ style pants, they were called) was okay, even approved. I’d wear dresses, or jumpers, or skirts & blouses to church, or ladies’ style “suits,” with jackets and skirts, plus a blouse, to church, … but we were allowed to wear pants to middle- and high-school. And, we (the under-19 ladies I observed) might wear shorts in hot weather, in public places, or while riding bicycles on neighborhood streets and public roads (for all to see). Yes, I could hear The Holy Spirit talkin’ to me, at times. Did I always listen (?)  and make the right response? No. (… I regret to say)

Though a parent may approve of a certain style of clothing as acceptable, or even okay, or good, or “just fine,” that does not mean that our Heavenly Father fully approves of it. My Lord was building within me a different, set-apart understanding of what “modesty” means.

I have left out a lot of details, so (if you want more details, I plan to write more about this topic in a second article, on this blog / journal / newsletter to ladies) please bear with me.

Am speaking somewhat in general, just to introduce this topic, of modesty, because I must make you aware of at least some of my background, to help you better understand “some things, from my past,” that had an affect on my thinking, and influenced me, even as The Lord was at work, in my spirit, teaching me about modesty, by His Holy Spirit’s methods.

God is able to use most anything to teach us, His children, what important truths He wants us, each, to know, and live by. He knows how to do it in a way that He blesses and will benefit us, by how He does it. He has been amazingly merciful, loving and patient with me!

In my own life, He used my family, my relatives, school “dress codes,” fashions being promoted during my years of life from age 11 to 18+, and the media, as well as my own heart, to let me learn lessons He wanted me to learn.

I must say that not all “those” things I have named had a positive effect on me. Not all of those influences in my life led me to do what glorifies God.

And that is why I write this post, here. To help someone else, so they will make wise decisions, and not have regrets, later in life.

Some would say even my personality profile affected the choices I made, in clothing. But God is so rich in Mercy, and so Patient in teaching us, … He helped me along, on His Path of Life in a Loving and Gentle way, never pushing me, or fussing at me. Just talkin’ with me in my heart and working in my spirit to lead me along to a better “place” of understanding, which has brought me much Peace. Thank You, Lord!!

He wanted me to learn to do things in a way that *He* calls modest, as it relates to how a lady clothes / covers her body, both in public and at home!

He wanted me to learn it well, so I could pass on the truths He was teaching me to my own daughters, after He let me get married.

And He has used the lessons, mistakes, disasters and good examples He provided to guide me, so I would be prepared to help my daughters along, … once they were born.

And He has been faithfully continuing to teach me more lessons, since then.


* http://helpnotes.blogspot.com/2008/01/modest-clothing-links-from-jan-8-2008.html

The link just above here will take you to an “article” I wrote on a blog (not this one; I copied it here, though) I began before this one, for another purpose — it is meant to benefit moms who home educate their children, for The Lord’s purposes. The dates on it may seem a bit odd, but I had copied it from another blog I had shared this article on, … when I chose to delete that other blog. You may wish to read more using this link, on the topic of modesty, before reading any more here.


… continuing on, here …

If modesty is, indeed, an issue (a matter) of the heart, then each of us, as ladies, must decide what kind of “heart attitude” we want others to “see” when they see us. This includes our own personal family members.

Our decisions will also be somewhat affected by our age, and our weight, and our body “type.” But I am speaking only of the overall issue, topic, of modesty.

If I wish to give others the impression that I am a happy-I-belong-to-Jesus (The Lord Almighty, God’s Son), then I should dress my body in a way that I truly believe *He* would be pleased to see, with His Pure, Holy Eyes.

That’s my personal belief. No one had taught me this, on earth, while I was growing up. I was, however, taught that when we “are getting ready” to go to our family’s congregation we fellowship with, for worship, each week, we should “dress in our best” for The Lord. Maybe that was one lesson along the road on which my Lord put me.

If modesty is important enough that parents “do” discuss it, and if dads “do” care about what their daughters “dress like,”  then some moms may, before their children reach the age of 12, wish to find  some older, God-honoring, believing moms, and begin to learn from them some reasons “why” those older moms dress more modestly than “some” other, younger moms dress.

I believe the older moms would share some history, from their own lives, or from the lives of other ladies “who regret” wrong decisions they made in the past, which would explain “how” they came to “see modesty” as they now see it.

I believe it is important for moms and dads to consider these issues especially when children are moving from being “little children” to “older children” to becoming “young adults.”  If our children do not gain wisdom from us, as their parents, they will seek it from others. That can be devastating for our children!

This is an important issue! The next generation *will* be affected by our example leading the young ladies to dress in a way that covers them “more modestly,” or in a way that does not.  (we must decide, now, what will we do about this issue)

I was very much affected by all the influences in my life — home life, and standards, friends, “school life,” ladies at churches I attended, and relatives, as well as printed & visual media (including magazines and movies), and images in books I was exposed to or that I chose to read or look at.

What influences do we want our young girls, our older girls, and our young ladies, and single ladies we care about, to have in their lives, as they grow as believers in The Lord Jesus (Yeshua)?

What kinds of thoughts do we want men, young or old, even boys (even our own sons), to be thinking when they see us, in public, at a fellowship meeting of believers, or at home?

Do we realize how men and boys are affected by how women clothe, and cover, themselves?

Do we have to dress like ladies from another century, or like frumps, to be clothing our bodies modestly?  (of course not!)

Do we have to look like we’re wearing sacks, or we’re fat women, or wear loose clothing that looks too large for us, in order to be dressing in a way that pleases The Lord?  (If I clothe myself in clothing that looks that way, it is probably more a problem of my not taking time to work on my physical fitness as I could.)

Does it make sense to study the culture in the time of Yeshua, or before that, to get ideas about what God seemed to approve of, among His people Israel, … as far as what we can find, to learn from?

Would that mean we should dress like women dressed in Bible times? Or can we find ways to adapt that mode of clothing oneself to our day and time?

Are there ways I can clothe myself modestly, without looking “olde-fashioned?” Do I need to fit in with the culture in which I now live?

What will my husband think? — my dad? — my brother(s)? — my friends? (ladies) — my casual acquaintances? (men, if I were single) — my pastor? — his wife? — my neighbors? (yes, they do look at ladies when they are at home and can be seen) — other folks who see me in public? — my business associates? (if I am in business of some kind)

How should I approach changing how I clothe my body? Can I make changes gradually? Will my family think we have to dress like Laura Ingalls and the ladies / girls in her family dressed, in the late 1800s?

How can I wisely discern the best way for me to clothe myself modestly??!

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God does have plenty of answers and wise guidance for us to glean from! Ultimately, each of us must decide how we should clothe ourselves in modest apparel. We will each be held accountable, responsible, for how we did clothe ourselves, when we see Jesus (Yeshua) face to Face.

Therefore, we show wisdom if we choose to learn about ways we can deal with this issue of modesty, so that we can “get on” with our lives, and not be “caught up” in the world’s plan to pull us toward its magnet of “fashion” and “style” and “keeping up with trends.”

Fashions change, according to what fashion designers wish to achieve (often, they are in other countries than our own), and according to styles and trends *they* want to “bring in” or have an affect on. Their designs and styles and trends these influential people develop come from their basic beliefs and values about life, their own standards, and from their beliefs / views about God. What they believe (and how they were raised; and some events / experiences from their own, personal past or childhood) will affect the standards they use as they develop clothing designs, that you may later see in clothing stores in the U.S.

If you do not sew, you will be limited to which pre-made clothing is available in stores in your area, or online. It will help you to learn to sew, first of all. That offers you more choices that will be modest, by design (your design). Even if you use a pattern company’s patterns / styles, for sewing your own clothing, you still have much freedom, with some sewing experience, to alter the style so that your garment will turn out more modest looking.  In this way, your sewn garment will meet the standards you believe The Lord would have you live by.

For those who do not sew clothing for themselves, take heart. God has provided modest clothing through others who sell it at consignment shops and at thrift stores, as well as through church clothing giveaways, and yard sales. (in the U.S.)  (note:  our family has found, through frequenting these types of places, that many others do take good care of their clothing, and then, they share it with those of us who cannot, otherwise, afford to buy the garments “at retail prices” in some department store or similar retail outlet)

Rest assured: God has your best benefit in mind! He knows you! He knows what you want, and what you like! (in clothing)

He also knows what He wants and likes. He will guide you. He won’t take anything good from you! He will offer you more options than you may have imagined, when you began pondering this topic! Just follow Him. You can trust Him. He is the first clothing designer — in the Garden of Eden. He made clothing for Adam and Eve (out of sheep’s skins, which YHVH God, Himself, must have killed, … unless He had Adam do the killing part), when that became necessary, due to their rebellion against what He had told them both He wanted them to do.

I will continue this in the second part of “my thoughts on modesty.”

(for those who were hoping I would share Bible verses to support what I am, or will, share, those will be shared in the second part)

… what God hath done …

YHVH God hath done marvelous things!
He is clothed with majesty!

His LovingKindness is everlasting!
His Mercy endureth forever!

… what hath God wrought … in your life recently? ….

He has been teaching me some truths, that are being used by Him to mold my character in the way He desires me to “go.”

It is like a path on which He has placed me, … that is a bit different from paths He has had me on, earlier in my life.
The Lord knows all things.
He knows what is best. He only does what is best.
From our perspective, life (at times) does not go the way we wish it would, or think it should.

But God is at work, doing us much Good, that we may not yet see (in its fullness) with our human eyes. In our spirit, with the spiritual Understanding He is giving us, bit by bit, … as we follow in His Way, … He is opening up doors, and … putting us in(to) a “large place,” as David calls it in the Psalms.
He continues to do works, in us, and for us, that our human eyes do not yet behold. But He is still at work doing them, for His glory and for our good, and for the good of those whose lives will be, or have been, touched by ours, because He has arranged it to be so.

He is at work. You (or I) may be going through what we view as painful times, emotionally, physically, or even mentally.
Life may not be going as we think it should, under His justice.
But we lack enough Understanding to see the “picture” He is painting as fully as we will, one day. (in Heaven)

Soon, our Dear, precious Lord Yeshua (Jesus) will call for us to meet Him in “the air” … in the clouds! We will be so thrilled, over-joyed (from our human viewpoint), so filled with awe and … getting to see (fully) His majesty, His glory, … and His blessed Face! Hallelujah!

He will change us, on the way “up,” … to meet Him in the clouds … into our immortal bodies!
He will do such things as would over-fill us, if we could now see what will “be,” that we might feel like bursting, … but then, it will all work out as He has wanted it to, from the beginning.

When He made, created, all things (yes, Yeshua / Jesus was there at the Creation; He was creating, at God’s command, what was being made / formed / created … at the beginning of time, at the time when God was making / setting up / creating the universe as we know it), He was thinking of you (and me)! He has us in mind!

He knew when He would choose to have you (and me) come upon this earth … being born, then growing up, … with things going on in our lives that we would not have chosen, but they occurred, and … in ways we may not now understand fully, He allowed them to occur because He knew “the greater good” He could use those to bring about. Then, He let us learn of Him, at the time He appointed, … because He chose you (and me) from the foundation of the world! Hallelujah! What a blessed thought! He thought of you (and me) from before He made all things, … including the stars in this vast universe of His! wow! He is awesome!

He knew when He would let us (if you’re an adult, or an older young person) become more fully grown, physically, mentally, emotionally, … and He is still maturing you (and me) (if you are a true believer in The Lord Yeshua haMashiach / Jesus Christ) “in Him,” day by day. As you (and I) continue to follow in the footsteps of Yeshua (Jesus), He continues to open more doors of His Understanding to you (and me). That is also a blessed thought! The Lord, Who made all things, and Who holds all things in His Hand, … and Who directs all the events of history, even using the horrible evil done by those who hate Him, and reject His Love, to bring about Good, and to use it draw more men and women into His sheepfold, into His Loving Arms, into His Kingdom of Light, Love and eternal Life! Isn’t it odd?

We think of evil as being so horrible, or so unjust, or so awful and unfair. But God does not approve of evil. He may allow it to occur, since evil is a result of the sins and iniquities of people God has made, who have rejected His abundant, limitless Love, who have thought more of themselves or of something they desire (that will harm them, or someone, on earth, they love) than they have thought of God, … because He knows He can use it / turn it … to produce Good for all.

The Lord is ever thinking about you (and me)!
He has you, if you are truly His child, and have believed on YHVH God (The Almighty God, The One, True God; The Lord Jehovah / YHWH, The God of Abraham, Isaac & Jacob; The Holy One of Israel; there is no other!), and in His only-begotten Son, Yeshua the Messiah (Jesus Christ), … then He has you in the palm of His Loving Hand. He cannot lose you. Yeshua said that those whom The Father hath given to Him, He will in no wise cast out.

Yeshua (Jesus) accepts you!
No matter what your past is, what you’ve done — if you have surrendered your life to Him, then you belong to The One Who made you, Who designed you to bring glory to His Name, Who loves you much, much more than you know!
If you believe The Lord Yeshua (Jesus) died in your place to pay the penalty, the debt you (and I) owed to God, our Father in Heaven, … for our sins and iniquities, then you have put your trust in The Lord Yeshua (Jesus). And … you are His! If you have repented (as part of trusting Him),
and you know Him to be your Lord (Master) and Saviour (Deliverer, Atonement-Maker, Your Kinsman Redeemer), then He has accepted you already! If you have repented of your sins (turned away from them, rejecting them as evil, and turning toward The Lord Yeshua / Jesus, for deliverance from the punishment for your sins, which is eternal destruction, damnation, sentenced to living for ever — never dying, but forever suffering, burning — in the lake of fire), then you are His! And He is yours!

When life does not go as we wish it would, … and when things go wrong, … even for good people (people who are true believers, who “are” doing good, at His urging, being compelled by His Holy Spirit to do what they believe He is prompting them to do, for His glory, especially in sharing The Gospel message of how one can find “eternal Life” in God’s Son, Yeshua {Jesus}), please … (please!) remember … the story of Job’s life, … and David’s life, … and Joseph’s life (who was taken to Egypt against his will, and yet, God used him, and the things he chose to do, and the things he chose not to do, to turn to good what would have, otherwise, been used against the people of Israel … and they would have perished in the famine … in the land of Israel, during Joseph’s lifetime), … and Daniel’s life, … and …
… you will be encouraged, that God uses evil rulers, and other people who hate us, … to keep us walking … on His pathWay, … along with our Dear, precious Lord Yeshua (Jesus), Who loves us with His everlasting Love!
And nothing can separate us from The Love of God, which is in Yeshua the Messiah (Christ Jesus), our Lord.

He is King!
But He is also our best Friend!
And He (Yeshua) calls us His “friends” if we do whatsoever He commands us to do.

If you are wondering “what” He wants you to do, please visit

You will gain something that, on earth, is “free,” but … as you go through your days, it will bless your soul, benefit your life, and will help you get through the hard times … full of (His) Joy!

He wants to strengthen you!
He has been comforting (strengthening) me!
He has been healing me! Hallelujah!
He has been filling me with more of His Shalom Peace!
He has restored my soul!

He wants to fill you with His fullness of Joy!
So, … keep trusting Him (if you already do), to be with you, to show you how to abide in Yeshua, … and how to walk His pathWay … with Him!
His yoke is easy (it fits well, and will not chafe your skin, because you are yoked together with The One Who bears all the weight of it), and His burden is light!
… lay down your burdens at His Feet! He will carry them “for” you!

… I am not done with this race (of life on earth) yet.
But He is so patient to continue to teach me more lessons of life.
I praise His Name for His patient, kind-hearted Love for me!
He has made my life full of Joy! and full of His glory!
Not because I do much that is good.
But because He does much more than I know … that is Good in a perfect (complete) way.

Trust Him! He cannot break His promises! He cannot lie! He cannot change!
He is ever Merciful, Good, Joyful, Loving, Kind, Meek, Humble, (full of) Shalom Peace, … and has Grace to give us, for each new day, to enable you (and me) to do the things He would choose / desire us to do, … that will (in the end) bless us much more than what we wish we could do.
The results are “out of this world” (if we obey what He commands us to do)!!!

Praise His Name for ever!
Baruch haShem Adonai Elohenu!
Baruch haShem Adonai Yeshua!
He is Melech ha Olam! — The King eternal.
I am so glad I know Him!
I am so glad He chose me to know Him!
He is my first Love!

Do you know Him?
If you want some advice on how to know Yeshua (Jesus), you may visit: http://www.lifeinthebible.org/ or
http://www.utmostway.com/ and look for information on those sites about how you can find deliverance from the bondage to sin (which is a form of rejecting God’s free gift of Love and of eternal Life in His Son, Yeshua / Jesus). If you need help, just leave the site owner a comment or message, through the means provided for that. He will respond to your questions. And God will answer your cries! All who call upon The Name of The Lord “will be” saved (delivered from the power and the punishment of sin)! — from Acts 16: 31 and Romans 10: 8 – 13